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I live in Florida. I allowed my mother-in-law to move in with us becasue she was undergoing chemo. She has since stopped receiving chemo and is interfering in all aspects of our marriage. My wife refuses to confront her. I am the sole owner of the house. She does not pay rent, nor have I ever asked or required her to make any kind of monetary remuneration for living here. I want her to move out and she refuses. I don't believe this falls under tenant/landlord laws. How do I go about getting her removed from my home?
He says he is the sole owner of the house, ScottGem. But, I have to agree with Fr Chuck and ScottGem. Unless of course, you are planning on a divorce?
Is your mother-in-law in complete remission? How long has she been off the Chemo drugs? Is she cancer free or have just the chemo drugs stopped? Is she on any other drugs? Sometimes those drugs can effect the mind terribly. If your mother-in-law is recently off the chemo and is still recovering and your wife wants her to live there, as much as your MOL is driving you nuts, that can be a very cruel thing to do to your wife. Why would you want to put her in the position to choose between you and her mother?
Unless of course your wife is in agreement with you and she just doesn't want to confront her mother.
It is obvious that if you pursue your agenda toward your mother in law, it is nearly impossible for your wife not to build resentment. This is also not your battle. It is up to your wife (since it is her parent) to bring forth issues that need to be discussed. Clearly, the boundaries have been broken. I found this info:
"Florida statutes and case law provides for an "equitable distribution" of marital property. In essence, the marital property should be divided fairly or equitably(not necessarily equally) between the parties regardless of how the title is held."-DivorceNet.com
I am not suggesting a divorce. I dont believe that is the road to go. But be aware that your sole name on a title in the state of FL does not mean you say what goes. My suggestion would be to sit with your wife, express your feelings, create new boundaries for everyone (like making MIL pay some rent if she has income), and expect the MIL to abide by them. If she doesnt, tell your wife it is time. I have been where you are. I know how frustrating it can be. Make sure your wife knows you mean business this time. If after that and you are still not heard, only you know what to do.
I will remind people this is the legal board, not the couseling or relationship board so answers should address the question properly that is being asked. Also note this thread is almost 3 months old.
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