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Greetings,
I resde in Brooklyn, New York. My husband and I want and need to move to Georgia. Because of job opportunities, family support and clean peaceful air. I am a writer , author and mother. A few days ago, I settled a 3 year case with my children's father on joint custody (Initially I was going for sole legal custody) and I have physical custody of our two children.. My children's father is a successful muscian and we worked out a flexible visitation schedule for him. He is a NY resident but also has a house in L.A. where his fiancee and her daughter lives. My husband and I have a 1 year old son. We all are a happy family. My two children from my prior relationshp is willing to go wherever I am. My husband has a house that was inherited to him and a job opportunity in Georgia.
I have a child support proceeding coming up next. My ex want to pay 5200 a month. My lawyer and I want the minimum of 8500 a month. If my husband takes on the job in Jesup, Georgia, could I put in a petition to move and will it be awarded or must I stay in brookyn and worry about my children's safety. My ex can choose 3 weekends out of the month and 2 days out of a school week for his visitation. My ex travels often through his tours and going to his home in LA. I dont think it should be a problem for him to travel to Georgia. Sigh.
Please help me with some options. Thank you. From a dedicated mother, wife and author who needs peace to write, space to breathe and fresh air to fill.
Greetings,
My ex and I have two children together. At present my ex is paying 6800 in child support for the our children. My lawyer is asking for 9000 which the judge said I am entitled to. I live in New York and my chidlren's father is a successful hiphop artist. I have a child support proceeding coming up next week and my ex just hired a reputable and well known lawyer amongst the celebrities. (Retainer fee starting at 25,000). My lawyer isn't worried but I am and did research on my ex's lawyers background.
At this point all I have is receipts, bank statements and credit card bills which add up to about 8500.00. I am very worried and nervous. Do you have any helpful suggestions? P.S. My lawyer is putting in an application for my ex to pay my legal fees since he has prolonged my child support for 3 long years. Thank you .
Worried mother seeking proper support of her two kids.
Thank you for your speedy reply! Great site. I have visited Jesup Georgia and absolutely love it. Perhaps I could negotiate with the fatheron settling for his 5200 in child support payments if he okay it for me to move. This is so frustrating because my children's father is very controling and arrogant at times. I kind of doubt if he agrees. At the same time, I don't want to be the reason my husband will miss out on his job opportunity as well. My children will be disappointed if we do not move. Any more helpful suggestions or answers?
Thank you for your input. I hope the judge will work out a child support arrangement according to his annual income taxes. I am also flexible with working out an arrangement with my children's father. He is a very difficult man but (sigh) I'll see what happens. Till then thank you and chat with you next week.
hello,
I settled for a joint custody arangement for my 2 children really wanting a sole custody. my attorney said it really doesn't matter but all the responsiblity would fall on me. I have physical custody and have a child support proceeding coming up. If I went for sole custody would I be awarded the amount the children deserves or does it not matter because I have physical custody of the chidlren.
Also if I had sole custody would I be able to move away to another state while honoring my children's father's visitation? I live in Brooklyn, NY. Thank you.
Again, I live in NY. I am a self employed publisher and author but isn't' making that much money at this moment. My husband is working making 2000 a month. My children's father is paying me 6800 a month in child support. He wants to pay only 5200. The judge told us that according to his 2007 income taxes that I am entitled to bet. 8- 10,000 a month. being that my children's father just last week hired an expensive and well known attorney who is known for winning childsupport cases, do you think any of this would change? do you think his attorney would have the power to lower the child support I am recieving or is it solely up to the judge?
Again, I live in NY. I am a self employed publisher and author but isn't' making that much money at this moment. My husband is working making 2000 a month. My children's father is paying me 6800 a month in child support. He wants to pay only 5200. The judge told us that according to his 2007 income taxes that I am entitled to bet. 8- 10,000 a month. being that my children's father just last week hired an expensive and well known attorney who is known for winning childsupport cases, do you think any of this would change? do you think his attorney would have the power to lower the child support I am recieving now or is it solely up to the judge? i am very worried and i don't doubt my attorneys skills and knowledge but still I am worried. My children"s father paid his new lawyer 25,000 retainer fee. I thought no matter what he pays his lawyer, could his lawyer possibly change the decision the judge had ordered?
My lawyer told me my children's father wants to settle with me. he is willing to pay 5200 a month. my lawyer said no. Then he said he is willing to go no further than 6500 a month, plus pay 15,000 for my legal fees and cover the children's medical as well as help with their private schooling. At present, temporary order by the magistrate, he is paying 6800 a month. I dont want to be greedy, go to ttrial and lose. I do have receipts and such which makes up for 10,000. The magistrate said that according to his income taxes, i am entitled to recieving anywhere between 8-10 g's a month. I would prefer to between 7-8g's, not trying to drink his blood. I dont know if I should go ahead with trial being that he has a good lawyer or have faith in my lawyer and settle perhaps? I already settled for joint custody when I wanted sole custody. should i settle again to his terms or let the magistrate judge if we should go to trial? Thank you for your input.
I forgot to mention, I've been married for almost a year. May 25 will make a year. my husband makes 1800-2000 a month. How will his income affect what I will recieve in child support? thank you
we lost our civil relationship the moment i took him for child support 3 years ago. he is bitter and doesn't want to pay what the children deserves and want to make me suffer. I don't play games of spite, at the same time, I dont want to keep settling either.
yes, originally I got a temp. order of 6800. My ex wants to pay 5200. the judge said i am entitled to 8-10 g's, My lawyer suggested i settle for 6500-7gs a month. my ex will pay for my legal fees, childrens private school and medical. should i settle or see what the judge might say? would the judge also have him pay my legal fees? I've always gotten the short end of the stick when it came to my ex and I'd hate for it to be this time with child support.
gossip. I didn't know you guys talk about a concerned OP on their profile. i was very excited at first but I lost my enthusiasm for this site. I'll confer with my attorney or "whine" to my attorney about my concerns. thank you for taking off your masks.
P.S. I am not bragging. I might be in my own world of concerns but guess what, I will think twice about asking miss twinkle and mr. frog. thanks AMHD. Thought you guys were professional...
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriag...nd-213324.html, Just so you know the whole story.
You have to many issues unresolved to just pick one. I think settling your business with your ex husband has to come first, and you have lawyers for that so I recommend some counseling so you may be guided thru the process of resolving your old issues and not just uproot your children and alienate them from the things familiar and important just to satisfy some yearning on your part. Moving will not solve the problems you and your now husband have let alone solve any problems with your ex. You need help to solve these issues and a professional is highly recommended.
Wow, thanks talaniman. Things are really falling into place now. And I agree that we can't suggest getting a lawyer because lawyers have already been obtained, now I can only suggest putting them to the use they are there for. And some serious counseling would be a great help.
nitewriter disagrees: I thank you for your inner thoughts about my situation. fyi I work at home as a writer. however, I might take your covetous comment into consideration. remember:everything is mental. if you think poor, so shall you be. if you think rich, so shall
Read how to use the site - if you don't agree with "Twinkie" on a personal level post that; if the legal advice is incorrect, then a "disagree" MAY be appropriate.
Do you know what covetous means? As a writer, I'm sure you do - trust me, "Twinkie" is not excessively and culpably desirous of your possessions. What would she be jealous of? Your posts run from trying to get pregnant to being in a shaky marriage to you being older than your husband to you needing more space to mice and rats in your apartment to this endless support issue. I doubt she's jealous - or desirous to be you.
FYI I think you have issues - and when you post all this contradictory info someone is going to pick up on it - and several people have.
Is all of this tied in to your career as a writer?
I don't know what kind of a writer this OP is, but I for one don't buy into that part of the drama queen braggidicio. I'm beginning to think this may be a plot for her next tear jerker. Forlorn, misunderstood writer with 2 kids from a successful musican having to EEK out a living on $6,800 a month or ($81,000 a year) living in a mice infested Brooklyn apt with a younger husband who has to decide if she should take more monthly money or not. Never mentioned if she was sucessful or not as a "publisher and writer" and can only come up with $8,500 in receipts. (Just because someone says they are a writer does not impress me. I've met some successful writers in my time and won't drop any names here. I do some writing, so what.) Some pot boiler here. Can hardly wait for the next episode. Is that the one where she buys a new $50,000 car and can't make the payments on it and then ask us what to do?
I've been to Jessup, Ga. just like Chuck and I know that place is not very well off and you and your family would hardly fit in.
Thanks Chuck for combining all her posts at the beginning for a real clarification on this poster.
I did notice that this "writer, author, and publisher" mangles the King's English in some of her posts using incorrect syntax, etc., something a real writer wouldn't necessarily do. Also writer and "author" are the same thing last time I checked the dictionary. I should have known something was up as she used this in the first paragraph of her first post.
If you take $81,000 times 3 years you get a tidy sum of over $243,000. All this “writer” has to show is a $2,000 mice and rat infested Brooklyn apt. Pathetic. I guess she doesn't realize that people watch tv shows that have the prices of apts in NYC on them. I can tell you that a $2,000 apt in Brooklyn is NOT a for-real luxury apt by any means and probably would have mice problems. Remember she wanted to only pay $1,500 – that was a post in the real estate section.
Also, what seemed out of the ordinary is why would she use a term for a miscarriage as a "procedure"? That got me wondering also.
Also a good job opportunity in Jessup had me scratching my head as well.
As far as us here at AMHD not being professional.....oh well, I guess we all must be "naughty" people (me especially) for having "guessed" her true intent.
We're far from dumb on this site and can catch on pretty quick.
Yes, I did a goggle search of apartments there, and even the two bedrooms for 2000 started looking sorta shaby, and I do not think I would walk in the areas where three bedrooms were only 2000.
I will be honest it is hard in down town atlanta to find a real nice three bedroom (in downtown) for 2000 dollars. And to be honest even converted lofts, will all have some mice issues in the inner cities aeras at time
But what I asked the OP was why they were wanting to renew thier lease, if they were wanting to move.
Yes, the good job in Jessup had me also, unless they were going to work at the atomic power plant ( I think there is one there, I know there is one by Baxley) But in Jessup, that walmart job is considered a good job.
*** not picking on anyone from there, I love it there and wish there was a good job and I would move there tomorrow ** so anyone there have me a job offer, PM me
LOL! Thanks for all of your sense of humor. Miss Judykaytee, Twinkiedooter and fr_chuck has made strong points and I don't negate your research skills. I also like the fact that one of yous looked into my careless writing and choice of words. Well the good news is I was awarded 8600 a month, I will be moving from my apartment and financing a home in westchester not too far from the "inner city". I am 3 weeks pregnant! and I thank you for your input, timeless observation and at times I tend to panic when things go alittle off schedule. The next time you guys should hear from me is...after i have this beautiful bundle of joy. I do apologize for being rather defense to twinkie's comment, sometimes the truth hurts. Any way, keep up the great work and i will consider counseling as well. P.S. Hey, thanks for the idea! I think I could write an interesting and humourous story behind all of this.
Thank you and hopefully you guys would forgive me.
Take good care,
nitewriter
Sorry I was so strong in my posts, but you seemed a tad out of control hyper-venting. Glad things worked out for you. Good luck in your new home. Kids can go to public school as there are some good ones in that area.
[quote=nitewriter]LOL! Thanks for all of your sense of humor. Miss Judykaytee, Twinkiedooter and fr_chuck has made strong points and I don't negate your research skills. I also like the fact that one of yous looked into my careless writing and choice of words. Well the good news is I was awarded 8600 a month, I will be moving from my apartment and financing a home in westchester not too far from the "inner city". I am 3 weeks pregnant! and I thank you for your input, timeless observation and at times I tend to panic when things go alittle off schedule. The next time you guys should hear from me is...after i have this beautiful bundle of joy. I do apologize for being rather defense to twinkie's comment, sometimes the truth hurts. Any way, keep up the great work and i will consider counseling as well. P.S. Hey, thanks for the idea! I think I could write an interesting and humourous story behind all of this.
Now I'm really confused - I thought your twin sister was the one who wanted to get pregnant. Or is it both of you?
And, yes, I would use this as fodder for your next book.
WOW!!! THIS WAS A REALLY FUN READ!! At first I never really got it, then I understood completely... But then I lost it again. Now I'm hoping there is a part two. Will Jane successfully have the baby? Will she get back together with Will Smith? What surprises will Westchester have in store for her. Will she dissolve this false image and join help desk in a normal fashion? I'm not upset, I was humoured. But it has taken time away from some very helpful people to entertain your imagination.
Good luck.
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