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I want to get married one day, but i was wondering where i could get married in what state for me and my fiancee to get marry in. Without him getting in trouble.
My mother is in jail, and my grandma said she would give me concent if needed.
For one thing your lying to yourself and to prove yourself as an adult to a judge your going to need to stop lying to yourself first and foremost. You seem to want to tell tall tales to pump yourself up. Thats not being responsible at all. I feel for your situation but you really need a life of your own before you can share it with others.
Somehow your own words dont add up.
( quote ) Well there was before. My mom is an alcoholic lost everything. Words cant explain what she has put me through. She been in n out of the hospital 6 times in just this year of detox! She stop caring for me in the last year. No food , clothes etc. I had to make it on my own. When she saw me doing good she knew she has the parental right to say i have to be with her. Even though she let me live with my bf for the last 8 months. & he been taking care of me too. Cause i am doing school and trying to get a job. & just this weekend she went to jail. On 4 accounts of alcohol & drugs. Plus she has a court date this weds from a different case that includes alcohol. I just dont want her to have any right for being a parent. cause she hasn't for a year. & Well she is going to face prison time. Now. Well maybe good chance. So my bf ask me to marry him & i said yes. I am so happy. But i am thinking i may just get emancipated instead. & Marriage in a couple of years. I was just wondering. I just dont want to be briought down more with my mom. I want to be happy again. (: ( end quote )
i might be over looking something but im not sure what you mean hon. i dont see anything inconsistant.
i might be over looking something but im not sure what you mean hon. i dont see anything inconsistant.
Im going to quote the OP to make the points.
1) Actually i do, I have the money, To keep up with rent & food. vs Cause i am doing school and trying to get a job.
2) Even though she let me live with my bf for the last 8 months. & he been taking care of me too. vs ( see note 1 )
3) My parents are gone. vs My mom is an alcoholic lost everything. and Plus she has a court date this weds from a different case that includes alcohol.
4) I am very responsible. vs I just dont want her to have any right for being a parent.
Its as clear as glass that this would never fly by a judge. Also if Op has been living with her boyfriend for 8 months it stands to caus wonder if she was actually 16 at the time they first started playing house.
1) Actually i do, I have the money, To keep up with rent & food. vs Cause i am doing school and trying to get a job.
2) Even though she let me live with my bf for the last 8 months. & he been taking care of me too. vs ( see note 1 )
3) My parents are gone. vs My mom is an alcoholic lost everything. and Plus she has a court date this weds from a different case that includes alcohol.
4) I am very responsible. vs I just dont want her to have any right for being a parent.
Its as clear as glass that this would never fly by a judge. Also if Op has been living with her boyfriend for 8 months it stands to caus wonder if she was actually 16 at the time they first started playing house.
Sorry hon i think im having a dumb moment i still dont see any inconsistancy.
1-why cant she have the money to keep up with rent and food AND go to school and try o find a job. i did that for years
2- they could be splitting the rent and food and other bills.
3-her mom is an aloholic and is in jail...technically she IS gone.
4-i dont know her in person but she may be responsible, i dont know her well enough to know that she is not. and i dont blame her for not wanting her mother to have any rights over her...unless of course she isnt telling the truth about her mothers behavior.
sorry these are really just my opinions, but i really dont see anything inconsistant here...
I can see what calif is talking about. She can't say that she has the money for everything but at the same time be trying to find a job. That goes back to her boyfriend supporting her which does not bode well for someone trying to prove that they are independant.
First of all, your grandma can't give any consent (unless she's been named your guardian by the court, in light of your mother's incarceration and your father's [presumed] absence.) Now, that said, I know of no state that will allow a 16-year-old to marry ; you'll likely have to wait until you're 18. Even if there is, you'd have to establish residency in that state and that's something you really can't do on your own at age 16.
Sorry hon i think im having a dumb moment i still dont see any inconsistancy.
1-why cant she have the money to keep up with rent and food AND go to school and try o find a job. i did that for years
2- they could be splitting the rent and food and other bills.
3-her mom is an aloholic and is in jail...technically she IS gone.
4-i dont know her in person but she may be responsible, i dont know her well enough to know that she is not. and i dont blame her for not wanting her mother to have any rights over her...unless of course she isnt telling the truth about her mothers behavior.
sorry these are really just my opinions, but i really dont see anything inconsistant here...
In most states if not all if someone wants to emancipate then they have to go through a process of proving that they and they alone can support themselves. You cant live with somebody etc. Your situation is different because you were an adult ? ( Im assuming ) at the time you went through it. You cant claim you want to emancipate then expect the goobermint to foot the bill. Also you can't say I can pay if you have no means of support like a reguler job.
I was pointing out that the Op seems to be talking from both sides. A judge would never accept that in a plea. When your an adult your entitled to make decisions even if that leads to your destruction. But when your a child trying to emancipate its very different.
No one is saying that you are telling a lie. What we are saying is that it is much more complicated than just saying I want to get married so I will get emancipated. Nor can you just cross state lines to get married. Like I said before I hope your meeting goes well tomorrow because it is looking grim (unless the outcome you want is to just have to wait). And I must say, as I did before, waiting until you are a little older really isn't that big of a deal. (we have all be 16 too and yes we do know what it is like even though when I was 16 I didn't believe any adult that said the same thing I am saying)
I believed you and I feel for you. That is really sad,
Your second link didn't work. Looked like it had some kind of block on it.
The new one you posted doesn't go to the page either. If you want to post it you might have to copy and paste.
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All you can do is hang in there and be strong.
You can see about getting emancipated and about if your grandmother is the one legally allowed to emancipate or sign for you to get married. Check all your options, talk everything over with your bf and your grandma.
You probably only have a year and a half or so til you are 18 if you can't get a solution before then. I know it seems like forever when you are a kid but its really not.
No one here is saying your lying to us. What I had said is your lying to yourself based on how I was reading what you had said. As others have pointed out its not a simple thing you want to do. We are all sorry for your loss and can understand your situation but it doesnt change the facts of what you are wanting to accomplish. When you go into a courtroom it can be very cold and matter of fact. Its nothing like TV. SO I hope when you have settled down and had a chance to think this thread over you might reread it and try to absorb what we all have been saying. Like it or not we are trying to help you.
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