My ex husband and I have been divorced almost 4 years now and he hired an attorney to handle our divorce since I couldnt afford one. We had three children in this marriage and we both agreed to joint physical and 50-50 shared custody of the children. We both have worked together for the last few years and both been satisfied with the situation. He recently got remarried and now the kids have a new stepmom. In the meanwhile, I had to move in with my mother because my income is so low. I then met my boyfriend and him and I recently got a small duplex. I am now unhappy with the situatuon because I cant really afford to keep a roof over my kids head. I only can do it because of my boyfriend. I still am asked from my ex to pay half of everything...school, camp, sports and so on. I pay it and then I struggle bad to make my car payment and rent. I am entertaining the idea of modifying our no support order to some support. The kids new stepmom told me I cant call after 9 to talk to my kids. I feel she is trying to replace me and I cant even afford anything for my kids. If my boyfriend left, I would lose my house and car. The kids are with me Tuesday and Wednesday nights and when its my weekend, I have them Friday night, Saturday night and Sunday night. Do I have a chance to get some support?

JudyKayTee

Maybe I only know what you posted and that's what I - and everyone else - are going on. Maybe we don't read minds.

And I don't want you calling your kids at my house after 9PM either.


Maybe I thought you needed money to survive because you posted: " I am now unhappy with the situation because I cant really afford to keep a roof over my kids head. I only can do it because of my boyfriend."

No shame on anyone - shame on you for not getting an Attorney in the first place.

So I repeat my question - why did it take you so long to decide you need/miss/want your girls with you more than you have them?

Amandalyn

Thank you George!!

Depressed in MO

"The kids new stepmom told me I cant call after 9 to talk to my kids"

This IS in your original post.

I totall sympathise with you, althought I do agree with others, I still understand how you are hurting-However, you are wrong to make such a harsh statement because you clearly said that you could not call after 9. you said 9 NOT 8.

stinawords

No one ever said sit back and do nothing, plenty have said what you can do. As Judy pointed out, you did say you were struggling you even said that if your boyfriend left you wouldn't have a roof over your head!!! No one is putting those words in your mouth you posted that. I stand by my original post and have to say if you go into court with this kind of attitude a judge is not likely going to look at you like you are a "damn good mother". If the kids are with their dad half the week the roof is provided by him, their beds there are provided by him their food and clothing should also be provided by him. He can legally tell you not to call at any time becaue it's his house his rules maybe he's trying to get the kids to be then. I really wonder if you really have a lawyer because if you did you wouldn't be so concerned about getting free advice here.

Amandalyn

Modification of Support Orders



The court may subsequently modify a child support order if there is a substantial change of circumstances. When determining whether a substantial change of circumstances has occurred, the court shall consider such factors as the following:

Changes in the employment, income or resources of a party
Receipt of an inheritance, pension or other gift
Changes in the medical expenses of a party
Changes in the number or needs of dependents of a party
Changes in the physical, mental, or emotional health of a party
Changes in the residence of a party
Remarriage of a party
Possible support of the party by another person
Changes in the physical, mental, or educational needs of a child
Contempt by a party of existing orders


Lets see...his income has gone up...a lot since the divorce
He has inherited a great deal since the divorce
He got remarried

There are 3 reasons right there!

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JudyKayTee

OP is becoming unnecessarily insulting - have no idea why she posted the question when she apparently already knows the answer. Personal insults are never necessary or appropriate.

Removing responses didn't calm things down and this thread should be closed - in my opinion.

Amandalyn

I am seeing my lawyer Thursday. I am just looking for questions and making sure I have all my questions with me when I go.

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stinawords

If we are so unimportant then why do you keep gettin on? None of us are going anywhere there have been enough people that honestly needed help and took their sound legal advice and made themselves better lives with it. All you seem to want to do is have someone say you shouldn't have to work just live off of your boyfriend and child support.

Amandalyn

Because my nice friend George sent me that just now.

Amandalyn

In fact i have to keep working, because my lawyer is going after a joint support order which means i have to pay him too!!!!!! I cant just stop working.

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