I`ve recently found out who my boligicial fater is and i have tracked him down and told him i got a dna test from my step brother and it came back with positive results that he is my reak father but he still won`t talk to me or acknowlege me or meet me . i`ve tried to make contact with him to find out more about my family and where i came from . but he still denys any knowledge of me when i have proof that he was told and he ran away when he found out . Not that i want anything from him but what rights does a son have .

stevetcg

None. If he doesnt want to know you, thats his decision and there is nothing you can legally do about it.

williknow

harsh words i must say ...
So what your saying is i can`t make him see me its his decision and i have to respect that . i find that very hard to swollow . their must be a law saying that i have some rights to ask questions about my extended family ... what if he dies am i entitled to contest the will if their is a will if their is any will and i`m not in it because of him not mentioning it to anybody that i exist ?
if he is taking the hard line by not meeting me and answering simple questions shouldn`t i treat him with the same respect and demand him to treat me as one of his own .....children ....

i`m sorry getting a bit upset that he can still not accept what he brought into the world ..

hurts

stinawords

You will have a claim on his estate once he passes away (unless he writes you out of the will). Other than that he has rights too and one of them is the right not to have contact with people he dosen't want to have contact with, even grown children.

williknow

rubbish i cant believe that you can have a child choose to walk away and choose not to meet/talk/explain when they find you ......what happened and get away with it .......


sorry but their must be laws a child has to be able to find out things .....

Altenweg

You found out who your father is, that's all you can do.

You can't force someone to have a relationship with you, even if they did provide the sperm
that caused you to exist.

You asked the question, sorry that the truth isn't the answer you want to hear. Doesn't make it any less true, but I'm sure it hurts, for that I'm sorry.

This is the way it is.

Good luck.

stinawords

It is true. Now of course you mother could have gone to court for child support 34 years ago and that would have left him paying support until you were an adult. But no, you can't force a relationship. You found him, you may be able to find other relatives of his that would be willing to speak with you if you are really wanting to find out some history about yourself and/or a medical history but again that is up to them as well. You wouldn't want a court to force you to have a ralationship with someone you don't want to either. I'm sorry that the truth hurts, I really am.

JudyKayTee

Rubbish and you can't believe it? Then I would suggest that you contact an Attorney in your State and ask the same question. You will get the same answer.

This isn't the moral board. This is the Law Board. Yes, a father can walk away from a child, it's that simple. Ask your mother why she never pushed for support (and I'm assuming she didn't). He could have been supporting you all these years and maybe that would have opened the door to visitation. Only your mother and father know that.

Ask her why she never demanded DNA testing - and, again, I'm assuming she did not.

I realize you are "sorry" but there are no laws that require any parent to remain in contact with any child, no matter what the age or ages.

If your concern is your inheritance - which concern you have expressed - unless you and your father both have DNA tests you have no claim to his estate. He also could specifically exclude you if that is his choice. You state you don't want anything from him - then you go on to demand that he acknowledge you, that you meet your biological family, question whether you can inherit.

What exactly is it that you want from this man?

Yes, it's a bitter truth - but it is the truth.

williknow

thanks for the advice people can be hurtfull but i`m sure they have their own demons to deal with when they close their eyes at night . all commebts and advice was taken on board and i`m looking at it diffrently now .

Synnen

Maybe I missed the answer to this already---but were you adopted? Or is this just a biological father that was never around?