I have primary physical custody of my 2 daughters to my ex husband, they are 14 and 17 years old. My oldest has gone to her fathers house on visitation and has not come home yet. I has been 5 days now and her father told me that she does not want to live with me anymore. She will talk to me, even come in my car and talk to me when I pick her sister up. My question is what can I do about this and how long do I wait. This all started because of her lying about a boy. I punished her for her lying and she ran to daddy because he will not punish her there. He has undermined my authority with both girls now. How do I get it back?

pamom

Well I did talk to her about all this the other day and told her she would have to make a decision soon because I was sure her dad didn't want to pay me child support while she was living with him. She had never taken into consideration that this would mean a change of schools also. She thought things could continue as is but she would live at her dads. I will talk to her again tomorrow when I pick her sister up. I am going to see if she will come home for"visitation" with me for the weekend.

ScottGem

Does dad live in the same school district?

achampio21

Limitations on Emancipation

Even when minors achieve emancipation, they cannot take part in activities which, by law, may require that participants have attained an older age -- such as purchasing and/or drinking alcohol, voting, or getting married.

Close to half of the states -- including New York and Pennsylvania -- provide no separate statutory provisions for emancipation. Instead, these states rely on the fact that emancipation is automatically achieved upon a minor getting married, joining the armed forces, or reaching the age of majority.

Age Requirements for Emancipation

Generally, the statutory age at which a minor can petition a court for emancipation is at least sixteen years or older, but below the age of majority (which among the vast majority of states is eighteen years of age). California allows a minor of the age of fourteen to petition its courts for emancipation.

I tried to find any info on visitation guidelines but I couldn't find anything on visitation but a lot on child support. If you want go to the website below and try yourself. Good luck and I wish you the best.

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talaniman

The advice you have been given is excellent and your husband is violating a court order.There is another dynamic at work here also that you should be aware of, in that your daughter has learned to use your husband against you to get what she wants, and this is not good. She has effectively divided you both, and you and your husband had better get on the same page, or your problems have just started. You two may not work together well, but for the upbringing of children you must. I'd leave her where she is, until she decides that being under your rules is a better idea.

pamom

My ex_husband lives in another school district and I told her Wednesday that she had to make a decision soon because I was sure her dad was not going to pay me child support with her living there, which also meant going to court to change custody order and then schools. Which she said she never thought about , that means giving up being captain of the varsity cheer leading squad. So today I am going to where she works to talk to her when she gets off and I think I am going to tell her to come home and if she still wants to live with her dad then fine but she is staying in my home until there is a new court order. I love her toooooo much to give up on her. There is no discipline at her dads and that is not good for any teenager. I feel like I have to show her I love her too much to let her just walk out on me. she has never given ma any trouble in the past. She is really a good kid I think this boyfriend is manipulating her. This is when all the trouble started. He is controlling and manipulative. He threatens suicide when then argue and the whole bit. I tried asking her father to back me up when it came to this boy but he said the kid never did anything "wrong to him".
This is my daughter and I will go tho the end of the earth for her and fight to keep her in my home. Wow sorry I just needed to vent.