Child support from unwilling father, uninvolved father

You have every right to collect financial support. I don't think you can force involvement from the father however.

The financial support may have to wait until the child is actually born. The amounts are often based on a comparison of the two parents income.

Then, based on the total of the two incomes, the court arrives at an amount of support for the child. The percentage of the total that the father earns... Such as if he earns 40% and you earn 60% when both of your incomes are added together... Is the percentage of the court determined support.

I am only saying that is how cases I am familiar with were handled. It might be different in different areas.

You can't make him want to be there, just stay upbeat yourself, I know it's hard but by you keeping the baby and being excited about it may help him come around eventually.
It doesn't matter if you make more $ or not you are still entitled to support payments.
I have been though this before to, if you want to talk further about anything just let me know!

I'm sorry for the lack of compassion, but you need to hear the truth:

Kick his sorry butt out. 8 1/2 years or not, this guy's a deadbeat and not someone you're going to want your child around. He doesn't care now and odds are he's not going to care in the future. He got 2 other women pregnant and didn't want those kids; why would he suddenly become responsible and involved? You deserve so much better and so does your child! You are not garbage; stop letting him treat you that way!

Did you read the thread, they obviously DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER! I have been there and yes the father did come around and we are now in a awesome relationship and he is the best father ever, Not ALL men Are complete jerks!

Thanks to everyone who replied.

This is off the subject of law, but in response to the replies that were given.

Yes, I have kicked him out of my life. Twice: over the span of 8 years. [We dated Jun 99 through Dec 99, and then I broke it off. We dated again Jan 02 through Aug 02, and then I broke it off. We were "Just Friends" Aug 02 through Dec 03, and then I broke that off too. We dated again March 05 through Sept 07, when I told him I was pregnant with his baby. After I told him, I am pregnant, then he breaks it off.]

I have never lived with him, nor do I plan to live with him now. He keeps coming back to me, pursing me. And no, it wasn't because I gave him sex. He came back twice, before I putt-out even once. I want to believe that he cares about me, even if he doesn't love me. He knows that care about him, deeply, even love him. But for my own sake I have kicked him to the curb.

The FOB is not the common dirt bag that hits or abuses women, but is a wolf in sheep's clothing. I can see that now.

I will wait till the baby is born (Due date is April 14, 2008) and then file for support. Since he doesn't want to do this the easy way, the mature and adult way, we'll have to do it the hard way. I can't allow myself to put my feeling in front of the needs of my child. Whether he likes it or not, this baby is coming soon. The baby will need love and support.

And as a message to all you fathers out there... Help the mother during the pregnancy. It's tough to do this alone.

Yeah for you, stay strong! I will keep you on my prayers!

Your child has the right to be financially supported by BOTH parents, regardless of their desire to be a parent. Even if you make more money than he does, if you are the primary caregiver of the child you will receive some amount of monetary compensation if you choose to seek it. Not wanting to raise the child does not negate dad's responsibility to help provide for the child. He can claim you tricked him all he wants. At the end of the day he chose to have sex rather than abstain, and is accountable for the consequences. He may not want a baby, but it is ultimately your decision and with time he may very well change his mind.

Sorry to be tough on you but you are covering for him, enabling him, excusing him, even now. He IS abusive. He IS a "common dirt bag." Emotional abuse is every bit as serious and disabling as physical abuse and walking away is abuse, accusing you of getting pregnant deliberately IS abuse. (He must think he's a better "catch" than he appears to be on paper). On the other hand, were you aware two other women had abortions at his insistence when you were involved with him? That would appear to say loud and clear that he does NOT want to be a father.

Yes, you should file for support but you cannot force him to be involved in the child's life - and I know you know this, but you can't make him love the baby, support the baby or love and support you.

And the message should also be to pick the possible father of your baby very, very carefully because you'll be stuck with him for a very long time.

Kudos, madam, for keeping your baby! May I recommend you find not only the best pediatrician in your community, but also the best lawyer. You will need to consider your estate, your executor, and the guardian for your child. Your attorney should get dad's agreement to provide your baby with health insurance and life insurance.