Child support

Too late....you are responsible, that happened the day you got her pregnant. No there is NOT a legal way to avoid child support if she comes after it. You will owe it and she will come after it at some point. Get used to it.

If you refuse to pay..they will garnish your wages, suspend your drivers liscense, sieze tax returns...and maybe even throw you in jail.

Time to man up....you think you have problems now....you haven't seen nothin yet. So best get ready for whats coming.

You can't sign your rights away....and it doesn't matter if you sign the birth certificate or even if your name is on it at all.

This is what happens, She needs money...goes to court, names you as the father....DNA tests are ordered (and you WILL submit a sample) and proves her claims...court decides how much you WILL pay....and it will be revised upwards from time to time....and you find a way to pay it no matter what sacrifices it takes, or how much you have left afterwards....because thats how it works. Hope it was worth it....you have at least 18 years of that to look forward to.

Sorry you don't want to be responsible, but you are. And you sound like a poor excuse for a father. You are this babies dad and it does not matter what the mother wants, you have a moral duty to be the father, you don't have to, but will regret this latter.

As for as child support, she can wait till file latter and you will still have to pay. In fact, if the baby or mother gets any state welfare then you will have to pay the state back if the mother never applies for support.

Just imagine the joy if it turns out to be twins, or triplets.

Ok I understand all of that but she doesnt want me there for the child and wierdly she does not want me to even pay child support! Ijust want to know if there is some kind of legal contract that can be made for this to stay as it is. Forgot to mention her mother offered to take full custody as primary parent in return for me and the babys mother to sign our rights away but in the meantime she said she herself will support her grandchild nomatter what.. Will any of that still make me not liable for paying child support? There are so many "fathers" in my situation who are good people but end up looking like the bad ones becuase they are being force into something they did not want and it being accidental in the first place. I dont see how it is fair for the woman to have the choice to basically overpower the fathers choice or infact "opinion" on keeping the child or not and it does not make her look bad when she is changing both their lives dramatically and changing it for the worse. ( for a teenager to be in this situation who has no parenting skills, an incomplete education, and an inexperienced worklife, this situation is changing our lives for the worst..anyone with common sense can agree) but when a father makes the choice to either stay or leave he is considered bad and screwed either way, if he did not want this. So as men we have no choice in anything really in this situation which is completely wrong. AND no body can WANT and/or PLAN having a child at 17. A child is sopposed to look upto and depend on their parents.. How can that be possible if we as teenagers are struggling with things ourselves and still depending on others. I just want to get the fact out the readers head that im choosing to leave and make my choice in the right reasons and as said before there ARE many teens AND adults in this situation Disregarding all the deadbeat dads whochoose to leavefor the more selfishlazy reasons. Its only fair for both parents to have an equal choice. Both choices for the mother and father require an equal sacrifice regardless so it should not be wrong if a man did not want to be apart of the childs life esspecially if they are not wanted in the first place. 

Is this child even born yet?

Long answer short. NO. There is nothing you can sign that will legally tie her hands to not seek child support from you. Nothing. The only way that will EVER happen is if the child is adopted through a stepparent adoption, or both of you decide to place the baby for adoption.

You did make a decision to have a child. You made it when you chose to have sex. To not acknowledge that choice is both immature and childish. (and I was a teenage parent..i do know first hand) I'll assume that you know how the birds and the bees work, so you know that there is a risk of pregnancy every time you choose to have sex. If you didn't want that responsibility at 17, and thought that both of you were incapable of being good parents, you needed to keep it in your pants. Sorry to be harsh, but those are the facts. You made a choice, and unfortunately, there have been consequences that you didn't plan for. You will spend a lifetime dealing with them, and hopefully, you will mature enough to realize that you don't need to punish your child for it.

I'd like to point out that once men are able to be pregnant, they can have more choice over what happens with a pregnancy. However, as it stands, women bear the brunt of the physical and emotional changes that come with pregnancy. That is NOT equal sacrifice.

You made YOUR choice when you chose to have sex. Yup, it sucks for men, but what's the other option? Forcing women to go through an abortion, an adoption (which has as many emotional consequences as an abortion, especially for the mother who carried and learned to love the child over 9 months) or giving birth? Or is it just that you want men to not bear ANY responsibility for having sex?

You and she can decide whatever you want. She doesn't HAVE to pursue you for child support. You don't HAVE to pursue visitation. However, the very first time she goes to get Welfare of ANY kind, the STATE is going to go after you for child support.

You cannot legally guarantee that you'll get out of your parental obligations to this child, so just get over THAT idea now.

I'm not saying you and she can't agree on any plan you want, but if she gets state aid of ANY kind (and as a teenage mother, do you REALLY think she can do it without welfare?), they WILL force her to name the father, and they WILL come after you to pay.

And frankly, I WANT you to pay for the child you helped create. I certainly don't want my tax dollars going to support any of the three of you. You made the ADULT decision to have sex. Now be an ADULT and support your kid.

Have you heard of the word consequences? Are you familiar with the idea that people are responsible for their actions? If you "didn't want it in the first place" (by the way, it's not an 'it' - it's a person, or 'persons' like smoothy mentioned) - then you SHOULDN'T BE HAVING SEX!! Yes, that's in all caps my young, young friend.

You're full of reasons as to why you shouldn't be held responsible, and you know, if you don't want to be involved with the child emotionally or physically, thats your choice, but you don't get off scott free, if the mother petitions for support, you will have to pay it. That's how the world works.

By the way - your second post explains exactly why young people shouldn't be having sex. It's unfortunate that you realized all those things after the fact.....

As others said....YOU decided to have sex at 17, nobody capible of writing this as you have is dumb enough to not know how babies are made. And yet you did it anyway. So yes it IS fair. You knew what could happen BEFORE you had sex.

Want to turn the tables around......if she decided to demand you have your testicles removed, or less extreme, have a vasectomy....does she have that right to actually MAKE you do it? No....you can't make her get an abortion either....You CAN talk to her about it, you can pay for it if she decides to, but past that, you really can't do one damned thing. Its 100% her choice to make.

And as others have said....welcome to the world of being an adult.....where you ARE held responsible for your actions....and mommy and daddy can't make it all go away, or take care of it.

As they say in fine nik nak stores....."you break it you bought it".