Child Support

unikuestyle · Jan 15, 2012, 06:55 PM

by the way we're from NEW YORK

cdad · Jan 16, 2012, 03:45 AM

You file for child support at your local office and name him as the potential father. They will order a DNA test and then he can start paying child support. As far as blocking visitation there is nothing that you have said to indicate that he is an actual threat to the child so if he applies for visitation he will most likely get it.

ScottGem · Jan 16, 2012, 03:50 AM

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Originally Posted by unikuestyle

I tried to contact him again so he could give up his rights legally,

There is this myth that a parent can just sign away his rights. But its only a myth. You might want to check out this sticky at the top of this forum:
http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-...st-116098.html

You made the choice to have sex with this man and now you have to deal with the consequences of that choice. Yes you should have filed for child support as soon as you gave birth. But, unless you can prove he is a danger to the child, he has the right to see his child.

JudyKayTee · Jan 16, 2012, 05:51 AM

I am also in NEW YORK. Unless you can PROVE he's a danger to the child either physically or emotionally he WILL get visitation rights, whether or not he pays support.

He cannot sign "off" on his rights - as everyone has said.

You can file for child support OR if you collect State or County benefits THEY can file on your behalf (and without your consent).

This is the problem when you have sex with unreliable or unstable or downright dangerous men.

unikuestyle · Jan 16, 2012, 06:25 AM

thanks everyone,unfortunally my blackberry automatically deleted all the msgs where he told me he was selling drugs ugh..but i do know he is now living with his grandma,he doestn have his own room,he shares with two foster kids who are under medication for anger management and he doesnt have a steady job,would that b enough?>

ScottGem · Jan 16, 2012, 06:50 AM

It is probably enough to require supervised visitation until he changes his circumstances. But not anywhere near enough to get his rights terminated.

JudyKayTee · Jan 16, 2012, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by unikuestyle

thanks everyone,unfortunally my blackberry automatically deleted all the msgs where he told me he was selling drugs ugh..but i do know he is now living with his grandma,he doestn have his own room,he shares with two foster kids who are under medication for anger management and he doesnt have a steady job,would that b enough?>

What can you PROVE through third-party evidence?

He sounds like a nightmare on feet - BUT it's going to be about the prooof. I've seen email messages (and texting) thrown out of Court because it's considered to be bragging (or just plain shooting off your mouth to scare other people).

You need PROOF in the form of people willing to testify - if it comes down to that.

(I also notice that you put "relationship" in quotes. Does this mean there was no reltionship and there is a possibility that this man is not the father?)

unikuestyle · Jan 16, 2012, 09:32 AM

oh he is the father...100% ..the kid couldnt look more like him...i put "relationship" in quotes because i believe it's a two way street,and when i thought things were right,to him they were the total opposite..there was no relationship meaning there was no commitment from his part to make me happy or to take responsibility for his actions,kinda found out late,but im glad i did.

JudyKayTee · Jan 16, 2012, 09:55 AM

Okay, I understand. If you file for support he will pobably ask for DNA testing. That's "usually" what happens and sometimes it's a Court requirement.

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