Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >

Can I take my children on vacation out of state without the fathers permission?

Asked Jun 12, 2010, 01:58 PM — 11 Answers
My ex-husband and I have joint legal custody with me being the primary custodian because they live with me 100% of the time. The only problem with that argument is he has had SEVERAL g/f's since we were seperate/divorced and I didn't get to meet any of them, even the ones he lived with. He chose to leave our family and now thinks he has a say so about who I choose to date. I am a wonderful mother and my children are always my number on priority. It's hurtful to me that he would choose to go the route of saying he will take me to court and get something saying I can't leave the state?!?! Can he do that?

Search this Thread
Share |
11 Answers
VirginiaMommy's Avatar
VirginiaMommy Posts: 4, Reputation: 10
New Member
  
#2

Jun 12, 2010, 02:02 PM
Okay somehow part of my question was deleted....after the custody arrangement sentence should have read.....I want to take my children on vacation out of state in August. This is nothing new, we do is just about every year. My ex said he doesn't want the kids to go since they will be around people he doesn't know. He hasn't met the gentleman I am speaking to and have been seeing for the last 6 months.......Okay, now you can pick back up with "The only problem" sentence.
Helpful
cdad's Avatar
cdad Posts: 10,961, Reputation: 6540
Internet Research Expert
  
#3

Jun 12, 2010, 03:01 PM
What do your custody papers say as far as any restrictions. If it doesn't say then there is no problem. It may say notify which still doesn't bar you from going it just means he needs to be told your crossing a state line.
Helpful
ellen0's Avatar
ellen0 Posts: 18, Reputation: -1
New Member
  
#4

Jun 12, 2010, 03:55 PM
If it is not in the divorce papers he can't change it now. You should not let him know who you are going with, this will open a can of worms but since you already did, just tell him that he can meet the guy if he would like to.
Babsmv (Mar 12, 2012 08:10 AM):   Source:
Helpful
cdad's Avatar
cdad Posts: 10,961, Reputation: 6540
Internet Research Expert
  
#5

Jun 12, 2010, 04:00 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by ellen0 View Post
If it is not in the divorce papers he can't change it now. You should not let him know who you are going with, this will open a can of worms but since you already did, just tell him that he can meet the guy if he would like to.
The father does have the option of taking her back to court for a modification and is well within his rights to do so. Please stop posting bad information unless you can back it up. This is the second time this has happened. Please be more careful in the law board.
Helpful
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
Fr_Chuck Posts: 72,624, Reputation: 37031
Expert
  
#6

Jun 12, 2010, 04:07 PM


Quote:
Originally Posted by ellen0 View Post
If it is not in the divorce papers he can't change it now. You should not let him know who you are going with, this will open a can of worms but since you already did, just tell him that he can meet the guy if he would like to.

Ellen I have warned you about givig totally wrong and bad info already. You have no idea what you are talking about, and stop it now before someone actually beleives you and gets into trouble
Helpful  (1)
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
Fr_Chuck Posts: 72,624, Reputation: 37031
Expert
  
#7

Jun 12, 2010, 04:10 PM


If it is not in the custody agreement ( be sure and watch, it may have a clause about leaving the state, many do)

But if it does not, the father can take you back to court anytime he wants and ask for anything to be modified.
Also check on the joint legal issue, since he as joint legal custody have a right to have a say in any aspect of the child's life.

Next when and how often does he visit and no, he does not have to know who they are, and you don't have a right to know who he is with, ( unless the court order says so)
Helpful
ellen0's Avatar
ellen0 Posts: 18, Reputation: -1
New Member
  
#8

Jun 12, 2010, 04:12 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
Ellen I have warned you about givig totally wrong and bad info already. You have no idea what you are talking about, and stop it now before someone actually beleives you and gets into trouble
You should watch what you say before someone laughs in your face
cdad (Jun 12, 2010 04:14 PM): Fr_chuck is highly respected here and gives great advice and follows the laws.   Source:
Helpful
VirginiaMommy's Avatar
VirginiaMommy Posts: 4, Reputation: 10
New Member
  
#9

Jun 12, 2010, 04:13 PM
Thanks everyone, may I ask....if he chooses to go to court and seek such an order, does the court just automatically approve such a request? I am a great mother and have never done anything to question my decision making skills.
Helpful
VirginiaMommy's Avatar
VirginiaMommy Posts: 4, Reputation: 10
New Member
  
#10

Jun 12, 2010, 04:15 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
If it is not in the custody agreement ( be sure and watch, it may have a clause about leaving the state, many do)

But if it does not, the father can take you back to court anytime he wants and ask for anything to be modified.
Also check on the joint legal issue, since he as joint legal custody have a right to have a say in any aspect of the child's life.

Next when and how often does he visit and no, he does not have to know who they are, and you don't have a right to know who he is with, ( unless the court order says so)

Because of his job, there is no specific visitation quoted in our paperwork, it only states on the days he is off from work he shall have visitation with the kids. And no where in the papers does it state anything about venturing out of state.
Helpful
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.

Remove Text Formatting
 

Undo
Redo
  
Decrease Size
Increase Size
Bold
Italic
Underline
Align Left
Align Center
Align Right
Ordered List
Unordered List
Decrease Indent
Increase Indent
Insert Email Link
Wrap [QUOTE] tags around selected text
Wrap [CODE] tags around selected text
Wrap [HTML] tags around selected text
Wrap [PHP] tags around selected text
Wrap [YOUTUBE] tags around selected text
Notification Type:



Check out some similar questions!

Can a mother leave te state with a child without the fathers permission [ 8 Answers ]

My fianc? Has a 4 year old daughter and the mother ( a friend of mine ) told me that she was leaving the state with his daughter for a 2 week vacation but never told the father, does she have the right to do that with out his consent? Also, they are planning on going out of the country in the...

Changing my child's name without her fathers permission [ 1 Answers ]

I have a 2 year old and she has my last name I have currently remarried and haven't changed my name yet but want to. I also want to change my daughters last name but not sure if her real father will let me and he is on the birth certificate. Can I change her name without his permission even if she...

Adopting out a newborn without Fathers Permission [ 10 Answers ]

Is there a state that allows adoption of a new born without the fathers permission? And what are the legal ramnifications when the father finds out his child was adopted and not stillborn?

Adoption without natural fathers permission [ 2 Answers ]

I have 5 children from my ex husband, and a daughter from a subsequent relationship that my ex husband has raised as his own. Although my daughter had contact with her biological father until 4 years ago, she chose not to see him because of his behaviour towards her and myself. Her biological...

View more Family Law questions Search