Originally Posted by califdadof3
I like this idea, empowering myself. I sought out counceling after submitting my question here. Dealing with this for years is exhausting and I am TIRED of it. Thank you all for your support and answers.
It's scary enough as it is, and I know there is really nothing I can do, except change my
behavior. I have to stop allowing all
of them, my daughters included, to abuse me with the threats and manipulations. They have to be the ones who stop him from talking to them that way. They tell me what he says, they say, because they don't want to see anything bad happen to me. A warning? He is abusing me still though them. My opinion is, If he scares them... they shouldn't go around him!
The idea of a taking him to court is just something I know would hit him where it hurts, his pocket! Money is his weapon to use with his kids. He provides things, for example their cell phone service, but if they don't do as he says, he cuts their phone off. But, I don't want to involve myself with him any more than is absolutely necessary.
His mother and sister told my daughter not to say anything about the beating, not mine. My family had no idea this happened until I told them eight months later.