Can I stop paying child support if the mother is blowing the money on herself?
Asked Mar 7, 2012, 03:13 PM
I am a non-custodial parent and the mother will not let me see my child. Also I am barely making enough money (working full time) after paying child to even rent a one bedroom place or support myself. The mother of the child works full time, lives in low income housing, gets food stamps, WIC, and has a new boyfriend who works full time as well. I feel that she abusing the child support money and wasting it on stupid stuff while living it up using my money and the money from tax returns on herself. Is there any way possible that I can stop paying child support or make her show receipts of everything she uses the money on down to the exact penny and turn it in to the state each month? For crying out loud she just bought a new car, has gone to multiple concerts in the last month, is a drinker (not an acoholic), and is just blowing money that I really could use to go to college or better my own life. I am 24. Have no car. No college education. It just doesn't seem right... PLEASE HELP!
First, child support is paid to the custodial parent to help raise the child. There doesn't have to be an accounting of what the mother is spending the money on. Unless the child is not being properly cared for.
If you feel that your child support is unfair, then go back to court and ask for a modification. If you can prove that the mother is spending money unwisely, prove it to the court.
If you aren't getting visitation, is there a court ordered visitation agreement? Then ask the court to enforce it.
If you want a full accounting (something I believe in) your going to need to start in your local government and have the laws changed. On visitation issues you need to go to court and request it. Once a judge has ruled on it then you can enjoy custody of your child and later depending on the state you live in get a reduction in child support. Not all states are like that but some are as a way to balance the scales for time spent with the child and the added expenses.
As far as not being able to rent a place. The courts don't care about that. They just care if the money stops. So to change things be more proactive with your child.
too bad men cant give birth... or I would have just popped her out myself. I've just recently moved back in with my parents and will soon be working two jobs to get back on my feet, get a car, pay off child support owed, and save enough to get a place for a couple months when I move back until I find a couple jobs that give me enough hours to live off. I'm not really sure of what the laws are regarding me living in Michigan now and my child and her mother living in South Dakota still... pretty sure the mother is always in favor of the court because it seems like men have no rights and have to work 4x's as hard to even get visitation rights (that is if she is cooporative and abides by the courts decision). As far as the mother using the money for my daughter on junk... its a bunch of crap. Women should have to prove what the spend it on whether it be bills or whatever... just as men have to prove how bad they want their children.. so should the mother. Funny thing is.. is that her whole family (sister, aunt, mother, and mothers bf) are all living in low income housing, and getting funding from everyone else's tax money. Some people just abuse welfare to the full extent. Anyone know of ways to get partial custody? My parents (whom are ordained ministers of a non-prodestant church) have not yet been able to see my daughter and she is already 15 months old. Just doesn't seem very fair to me or my family. Anything that I can watch out for and use against the mother in court... or how I should go about doing that exactly?
First, yes it is true that mothers tend to be favored, that doesn't mean that fathers can't assert their rights. And in all your ranting, I see very little real information.
Again, it doesn't matter what the mother spends on as long as the child is properly cared for. And nowhere do you discuss that. Nor do you discuss what you have done to try to see your child. You also don't tell us how the two of you came to have a child, how old you are, how long you were together, etc.
So far all you have done is whine about your own predicament. Not a word about your child. Not a word about background. Not a word about what you have done to be a father.
I'm not unsympathetic. But if you want our help you need to give us more to help with.
You can not block a person from answering your question. This is a public forum. Also you cant delete a post. There is a "report" area that is near the top of the comment and you can report a comment if it doesn't meet this sites guidelines and it will be removed.
how do i delete answers or block certain people from answering?
From this and the fact that my answer got an unhelpful rating, I assume you were the one rating it. From that and your other responses, it appears you don't really want help, you just want someone who will tell you what a bad deal you have gotten. Well that's not how this site works. We try to help with the real problem, not just make you feel good.
So I will say to you again, if you want to give us information that can be used to help us help you, then do so, if you just want us to agree with you, try another site. We don't appreciate people who give negative ratings just because they didn't like the answer.
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