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Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for eight years and have 2 children together, we both work but are struggling to make ends meet, He also has a child support order for his oldest son. A woman is now coming out and asking him for a paternity test for her 12 year old daughter because the father got a test last year and found out it was not his child after caring for her and paying child support one other guy was tested and he is not the father so now my boyfriend has to go get a test next week, This womans name is listed on his child support as parent to receive support (My boyfriends current order for other son has her name as well ,). He also received a letter that if this child is his he will have to pay back support to her and the welfare system because she was on welfare, I am all for a parent paying support but why should he have to pay back welfare for her if this is his child (she does resemble our son).
Because thats the law, and back child support still goes for the welfare of the child, and it starts at birth, so if he didn't handle is business at the birth of the child, he must do it now.
Why should the taxpayers have to carry the burden of support if she was on Welfare?
That's the reason. There is absolutely no reason that the public should have to pay for the kid(s) if the parent is able to be located.
I understand that completely, but If he had known that he had this child he would of been paying support, this woman is still on welfare to this day (they are actually paying for the paternity test) why does a man that pays support have to pay back welfare for a woman who does not want to work and can not keep track of the men she sleeps with. (I hear she is also pregnat now)
Well, if he thinks she's that bad, he should sue for custody.
Then SHE would be the one that had to pay support.
Basically it comes down to choosing wisely the people you sleep with--and while she can't keep track of who SHE slept with...apparently he stooped low enough to hit that.
The responsibility is that of BOTH parents.
I say again: If you (or the child's father, anyway) do not feel that she is a good enough person to HAVE those kids, then he should sue for custody of the children.
Whining about child support always ticks me off, frankly. I don't like, as a taxpayer, supporting someone else's kids. Especially since I can't get the taxpayers to pay for ME to have a child (the infertility testing and IVF treatments get REALLY expensive).
So...since kids are a "lifestyle choice", then the people who MADE the kids should have the financial hit on their lifestyle.
Or give the kids up for adoption at birth, when they still have a chance of being adopted.
Well, if he thinks she's that bad, he should sue for custody.
Then SHE would be the one that had to pay support.
Basically it comes down to choosing wisely the people you sleep with--and while she can't keep track of who SHE slept with...apparently he stooped low enough to hit that.
The responsibility is that of BOTH parents.
I say again: If you (or the child's father, anyway) do not feel that she is a good enough person to HAVE those kids, then he should sue for custody of the children.
Whining about child support always ticks me off, frankly. I don't like, as a taxpayer, supporting someone else's kids. Especially since I can't get the taxpayers to pay for ME to have a child (the infertility testing and IVF treatments get REALLY expensive).
So...since kids are a "lifestyle choice", then the people who MADE the kids should have the financial hit on their lifestyle.
Or give the kids up for adoption at birth, when they still have a chance of being adopted.
Either way....no whining about it.
I agree 100% about taking care of your responsibilty, I wonder if the first guy gets his money back seeing the new will have to pay as well (the first one also paid welfare), my question really is how do they add her name to his support order wihout a test yet and if it is his child and they get a court order and she stays on welfare does he still pay the current welfare as well as back.
The first guy can get his money back if he gets a lawyer and goes to court especially if they do get the right father paying. As far as current welfare goes no he will only have to pay the back amount that he would have been paying in support. When ever she goes in to renew her welfare (every 6 months or so I think) all support payments recieved by her are to be reported because they figure into the amount of assistance she recieves. I do know of a couple women that know how to play the system so in order to protect himself make sure all of his payments are made through the court system and he gets the reciepts from them (they are good about giving reciepts) this way she can't claim she didn't get it. Well, she can claim she didn't but he has the best back up he can get.
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