Boyfriend may have a daughter

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 07:33 AM

Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for eight years and have 2 children together, we both work but are struggling to make ends meet, He also has a child support order for his oldest son. A woman is now coming out and asking him for a paternity test for her 12 year old daughter because the father got a test last year and found out it was not his child after caring for her and paying child support one other guy was tested and he is not the father so now my boyfriend has to go get a test next week, This womans name is listed on his child support as parent to receive support (My boyfriends current order for other son has her name as well ,). He also received a letter that if this child is his he will have to pay back support to her and the welfare system because she was on welfare, I am all for a parent paying support but why should he have to pay back welfare for her if this is his child (she does resemble our son).

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by GV70

When a mother is on welfare,she does not receive child support payments.She gets welfare only.CSEA gets cs payments.

right, so who should support the mother? Just because a parent is not in the picture(mother or father) should us taxpayers support the other parent, or should they get a job and support there self

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Sorry - I thought the post was about benefits the mother received on behalf of the child, not her individual benefits.

should of made it more clear, I am for paying back support for your child, but just because your a single parent does not mean the absent parent should support you, they should support there child

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I think this has crossed out of legal advice/info and into discussions and opinions and arguing with the law(s) - could the thread somehow be split and posted elsewhere?

I have no idea how that works.

RickJ · Apr 22, 2008, 09:54 AM

Aliaricam, this board is for legal opinions. Can you summarize your question, at this point, in a sentence?

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by RickJ

Aliaricam, this board is for legal opinions. Can you summarize your question, at this point, in a sentence?

If my boyfriend is found to be the father of this 12 year old girl, why does he have to pay back welfare for the 12 years this woman had received it for herself as well as the child, The first alleged father payed some of it.

aliaricam3 · Apr 22, 2008, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by GV70

Because that is the law!Maybe he has to pay retroactive for 12 years,maybe for five...
It is possible for the first alleged father to sue your boyfriend for recoupment

So basically if you have a child and are not married the father has to support you for as long as you refuse to work?

I will put it this way Why does my boyfriend (if found to be the childs father) have to support the mother?

talaniman · Apr 22, 2008, 10:22 AM

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I will put it this way Why does my boyfriend (if found to be the childs father) have to support the mother.

He doesn't have to support the mother, just his child.



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