I have been in an extra-marital relationship for six months with a man who was "leaving" his wife. He told me repeatedly that they were living as roommates and he was moving out soon. Once this went on for some time, I decided I was worth more and broke up with him.

I found out a few days later that I am pregnant with his child. I know it is his kid as I have not been sleeping with anyone else.

We have been talking about what to do and I instructed him to tell his wife before we determined next steps. He has told her (but not his two kids), and she is determining whether she wants to stay with him Meanwhile, he is adamant that I not have an abortion. However, he is also insistent that I share custody with him and have my baby stay at his house (and possibly with his family) part of the time.

When I said that would make me uncomfortable, he exclaimed, "Then you can expect a fight". So I am wondering, do I have a chance in getting full custody with child support, and only supervised visits?

ScottGem

Probably not. I don't see the father as a danger to the child and that's the only reason for supervised visits. You might be able to restrict vists while its still an infant, especially if you breast feed. But once the child is weaned, there doesn't appear to be any reason to deny him reasonable visitation.

I would, however, consult an attorney who can research the full story.

charlotte234s

Yes, you do have a chance at full custody with child support and only supervised visits. You will have to get an attorney probably to fight this slimeball in court.

tickle

There is no way he will be able to take your baby. I think he is putting up a smoke screen and if he already has a family and a wife I dont think you will be hearing from very much after you have the baby. However, take him to court for child support.

twinkiedooter

You not only have a chance, but a very good chance of getting just that. I would suggest that you don't keep seeing this guy as he is never going to leave his wife if he came up with that kind of a scenerio and the kid's not even here. Think about it for more than a second and you will see that you are really wasting your time with this two timing loser.

Fr_Chuck

It is up to the courts, it is very commom for fathers to get joint custody, esp if they live in the same area, with the time with the baby spent between the father and the mother, and why would you feel funny about the child spending 1/2 of its time with thier father ???

Now often for an infant the mother may get the custody for a period of time, with joint to start when the child is alittle older also.

But you may want to check with an attorney and see what your local courts are doing, joint custody is becoming more and more commom all around the US

ScottGem

I can't believe the answers you are getting. Will you get primary physical custody? Most likely! Will you get full or sole legal custody? Unlikely! Will you get child support? Probably! Will you limit him to supervised visits? Unlikely!

The situation is you have a father who wants to be a part of his child's life. No court is going to deny him that unless he represents a danger to the child. And I don't think, based on what you have said, that is the case.

GV70

Not,of course!!!Supervised visitations are required if the parent is a real danger to the child.

JudyKayTee

You instructed him to tell his wife about the baby?

If you want an abortion it's your decision - he can't stop you under the law.

And, yes, he's the father and unless he's a danger to the child he will have unrestricted visitation rights and during those rights he can take the child anywhere safe - including to his house to visit with his wife and his other children.

JudyKayTee

Sorry, don't agree - see no need for supervised visitation.

If the married man having the affair on the wife is a slimeball, what category does the "other woman" fall into? Maybe she was foolish, maybe she showed poor judgment but I don't like the name calling.