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I think that you are WAAAAAYYYY too young to get married. What are you running from? What is your situation? What is your family life like? Have you seen what the divorce stats are? Do you REALLY know who you are or just think that you do? I would give this a lot of thought. I don't think that you can do this anyway, as you need parental consent in all states unless you are 18. It used to be some states would allow this, but I don't think that there are any anymore. I agree with the earlier post, DO NOT GET PREGNANT!!!! If your relationship does not work out, then you still have to take care of a child at a young age, which will be extremely hard, especially if you do not have family support.
i would never get pregnant just to be able to get married, i was just wondering if it makes a difference cuz i might be pregnant...
we need to get out of our houses because they aren't safe and our families are using us... its not a good situation
My personal opinion; you are both pretty young to be getting married. At the age that you both are, you both are going to grow alot emotionally. Life for the both of you hasn't even fully begun. Marriage has become a union that is taken for granted these days. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be happy, but at your age (and his age) there is much to learn about life, much of which only experience can teach. I'm not trying to talk down to you; I'm just trying to put things into perspective.
I can't help but be a little concerned about some of these posts/questions. My heart really goes out to these girls. I believe that the advice that is being given comes from people who have been there before - myself included. Maybe our experiences are not EXACTLY the same, but we were all young once. Girls, PLEASE listen to what these people have to say. You may feel that your boyfriends REALLY understand you, that both of your family situations are similar, that this person really cares about you, that your lives will be better if you were together and that your commonalities will keep you together forever. However, this pattern of running away may reappear in your young marriage when things get difficult. Not dealing with your current situation is only running away and will not solve whatever "problem" currently exists. Not dealing with problems will not make them go away. They will always be there UNTIL you deal with them. Marriage is difficult between mature adults, so I can only imagine how difficult it would be on two young people who have not had the chance to learn about life through living it. Sorry for being wordy, but I thought it was important to express all of the above.
In a nutshell, here is what I recommend:
1. Get an education. In today's world, education is the only thing that will get you anywhere. Education is the one thing that someone can NEVER take away from you.
2. Work on yourself. Know that you can work through your problems and that you don't need someone else to help make you feel better (i.e. boyfriend). The only exception to this would be a therapist. They will HELP you to WORK through your problems.
3. DON'T get pregnant. Not only will this not solve your problem, but it will create more difficulties. Raising a child is not easy, even for people who are much older than you, have established careers, etc. It is also very unfair for the baby, as they do not ask to be brought into this world.
I hope this helps. Again, sorry for being wordy, but I thought it had to be said.
Columbia South America I think allows it, as do several nations in Africa.
But in the US you can not get married, even if pregnant. And in many states if the 16 year old girl is pregnant the 17 year old boy can be arrested if the parents file charges against him,
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