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Of course my heart is broken, however, I love my daughter more than words can express and she is pregnant. My daughter is 14 and her boyfriend is 16. I'm not interested in pursing action regarding the age of the boy, but is it illegal for a 16 Year-Old boy to have sex with a 14 Year-Old girl? This question is only for my peace of mind.
Although I do not approve of the actions, I unconditionally love and support my daughter. I also love her boyfriend whom would like to stay in the baby's life.
Sadly, the boyfriend's mother is already starting trouble. At first she attempted to force my daughter to terminate the pregnancy at 22 weeks, and now she is trying to win custody of the unborn baby. She is an alcoholic.
My daughter and I have decided to not include the father's name on the birth certificate when the baby is born although we strongly desire to include the father in the baby's life as much as possible. We are not looking for financial support, only his love for the child.
My questions are as follows:
1. If the father's name is not on the baby's birth certificate, what are his rights?
2. Will the father's mother be able to claim any type of rights for the baby?
3. Should my daughter and I consider myself for temporary guardianship of the baby?
4. Is it my responsibility to include the father's mother in the planning etc... prior to the baby's birth? Honestly, I wish to not have any further contact with her as it was aggressive and intimidating.
Is it illegal for a 16 year old boy to have sex with a 14 year old girl?......
My questions are as follows:
1. If the father's name is not on the baby's birth certificate, what are his rights?
2. Will the father's mother be able to claim any type of rights for the baby?
3. Should my daughter and I consider myself for temporary guardianship of the baby?
4. Is it my responsibility to include the father's mother in the planning etc... prior to the baby's birth? Honestly, I wish to not have any further contact with her as it was aggressive and intimidating.
Thank you very much!
Hello roj:
Your first question. Yes. In no state in this country is it legal to have sex with a 14 year old girl.
1). His rights are the same whether you put him on the birth certificate or not. I know that you don't want financial support, but the support isn't for you. It's for the baby. At a minimum, let's say $100/month. Over the next 20 years, that's a lot of money. Can you afford to give away over $20,000? I can't, and your baby oughtn't.
His visitation rights are totally separate from child support. He can be held to account whether his name is or isn't on the birth certificate.
2) Grandparents have NO rights whatsoever!
3) No. The baby will automatically BE in your daughter’s custody. That won't change until and/or if there is a court order to the contrary. That isn't likely. You should pursue court ordered child support, and at the same time, the court will order liberal visitation. Of course, you can let him visit more.
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Depressed in MO disagrees: In some states, a child of age 14 can determine if they are ready to have sex or not. It just depends on how old the other party is to determine if it is considered illegal. (for ex: stat. rape)
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Hello Depressed:
I strongly disagree. The age of the rapist is NOT the determinate factor in statutory rape. The age of the victim is. In this country, we don't let children determine any age of consent. We don't let them decide when to drink. We don't let them decide when to drive, and we don't let them decide when to have sex. Adults make those legal determinations.
I say again, there is NO state in this country where having sex with a 14 year old is legal.
I know you are talking about in the US. But is that the case under any circumstances? Or are there certain cases where they do have rights.
(I'm in UK, and just curious)
"Here in the states many grandparents are going to court for "grandparents rights" and winning."
Same here in UK. So many petitions and protests, and web sites shouting for grandparents rights. I have to admit I never noticed it until my own grandson came to stay with me.
In most states it would not be illegal for a 16-year-old to have sex with a 14-year-old. Usually there has to be more than a 2-year age difference for it to be considered statutory rape or sexual assault. If you do not include his name on the birth certificate then he has no legal paternal rights and you cannot take any action against him for child support. You can certainly choose to include him in the baby's life whether his name is on the birth certificate or not and whether or not he pays child support. I wouldn't worry too much about his mother. Not too many states formally recognize grandparent's rights. She doesn't have much of a leg to stand on. Just allow her whatever level of contact you're comfortable with, if any.
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Depressed in MO disagrees: In some states, a child of age 14 can determine if they are ready to have sex or not. It just depends on how old the other party is to determine if it is considered illegal. (for ex: stat. rape)
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Hello Depressed:
I strongly disagree. The age of the rapist is NOT the determinate factor in statutory rape. The age of the victim is. In this country, we don't let children determine any age of consent. We don't let them decide when to drink. We don't let them decide when to drive, and we don't let them decide when to have sex. Adults make those legal determinations.
I say again, there is NO state in this country where having sex with a 14 year old is legal.
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Im sorry to say but you are wrong when you say NO STATE IN THIS COUNTRY THAT ALLOWS 14YR OLDS TO HAVE SEX LEGALLY because I know of a 14 yr old that had sex with a 32 yr old man and her parents found out and tryed to press charges but the law said that it was ok because she consented to it
All of the laws that were quoted to you sound good and may be right in some places but you need to know the laws of the state of the country that you live in.
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