http://www.askmehelpdesk.com en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:00:19 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/amhd_imgs/misc/rss.jpg http://www.askmehelpdesk.com http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/bit-confused-say-least-about-ex-417446.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:53:21 GMT to say the least i am a bit confused about the relationship with my ex. in context i met her about 8 years ago and i dated her for three years. i did love her but we stopped connecting after this time and when my dad became unwell i asked could she come up with me to see him and ... to say the least i am a bit confused about the relationship with my ex. in context i met her about 8 years ago and i dated her for three years. i did love her but we stopped connecting after this time and when my dad became unwell i asked could she come up with me to see him and she declined saying she felt burnt out by work etc and a bereavement in her own family. the relationship eneded shortly after that having moved and changed job.
we have had contact since the relationship ended sometimes it may not be for six months and have both dated others since. however with my ex there is an often invisible connection and after contact again it always seems to revertt back to the same pattern , feelings come into it and then one withdraws again. i do love her and most people i know and she knows sees this connection between us and have advised us to move on both of us try but we seem to keep getting drawn back to each other. recently we had conatct again when she was having trouble at work and asked my advice (part of me thinks this was only to see me again). so we met up and i chatted to her about her work probs i was tired and did and gonna go and she offered the spare room as. i half joked that i would stay if i could stay in her room but she didnt seem too keen. I didnt want to use her if anything would have developed i would have liked to have a relationship with her again.anyway as i left i hugged her and said come and see me soon and she agreed. i then texted her and got a reply saying she wasnt herself recently i offerd to call her and she didnt even reply. i feel a bit lost in all this an im in the middle of it to much to see the wood from the toes. I would ask her out again but im scared it would frighten her away and i wanted to bulid up to it gain. howver back to the familiar again with no contact again. i do love her. anyone with any objective advice would be appreciated

anthony ]]> Dating anthony boy http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/bit-confused-say-least-about-ex-417446.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/im-love-more-than-anyone-else-feedback-needed-417391.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 08:09:22 GMT Okay, I'll get to my question, but it is essential that I give some background on the situation.
I'm a freshman in college and I'm madly and deeply in love with a good friend of mine who is a senior in high school. We've known each other for 10 months, and I've been madly in love with her since then (love at first sight).

I have never felt like this before and I can GUARANTEE that I never will again. I love her more than anything, and there is nothing that I wouldn't do for her. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I love her more than anyone loves anyone on this entire planet (strong statement, but please, trust me). I hope to meet with her during this thanksgiving break or some time very soon so that i can tell her. I will not tell her that I'm in love with her, as most girls are driven away (out of fear) by the words "I love you." I plan on telling her that I knew that I'd miss her since I left for college, but I never knew it'd be this bad. I really like her a lot, that there's no one that i care for more and that she means more to me than anything. Also, I will tell her that even though she does not view me as more than a friend (she said so), I have another side to me, one that she has not seen, and I want the chance to show her it. I've been what she's desperately been looking for all along. We have many similar interests and can easily relate to things. I just want the chance to show her, and I can give her way more than anyone else can ever give her. I will say all of this then conclude by telling her that I just want the chance to show her the other side of me that she hasn't seen (what she's been looking for...trust me, i have it), and saying "will you be my girlfriend?"

I would greatly appreciate any feedback on this situation. Also, what are your thoughts/opinions/suggestions on everything that I will say to her?

thank you! ]]> Dating mccarm91 http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/im-love-more-than-anyone-else-feedback-needed-417391.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/do-sit-around-417346.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:59:30 GMT hmmmm... before I start off, I think it's pretty obvious how this guy I'm dating must see me, but maybe I need someone else other than my friends to tell me how it is...

I first met this guy at a bar... (should of known) and I was just about to leave cuz my friend was pretty drunk lol and I was the one who was driving us home, and this guy grabbed my hand, and said I was beautiful. I'm nornmally don't hestiate to walk away and that be about it, but I added up giving this guy my number cuz he was fineee. :)

Anyways, after a week I was thinking he was never going to call me, I wasn't loosing sleep over it, cuz I was actually talking to another guy at the time. And that very day I thought he wasn't going to call me and he really did call me.... He asked for us to go out that night but I had already had a date, and as much as I really wanted to cancel I couldnt and then I told him the next night we should go to the movies or something.

The next day came around and he canceled on me... So about 3 weeks later almost going on our 4th week I stopped talking to the other guy and starting getting with him, we've had a couple dates, lots of spark kissing, but lots of game playing. First he tells me he wants to take it slow, and the next minute he's trying to rub up on me. lol Don't get me wrong I had sex with him once, and that just recently happened. He is always bringing up that I already have a boyfriend, which makes me think he might already have a girlfriend. Not to metion I have a child, and it took him the second week to tell me he had four kids. lol It's games, games, games, it worries me, but at the same time, I give him credit that he is told me about his kids because I dont think at first I would have actually talked to him if he had 4 kids, cuz he's 26 and Im only 22. Um... please tell me, this will go somewhere... I really like him what should i do, he told me he has trust issues, is that it? Or am I being played help meeee !!! ]]> Dating Jessie06 http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/do-sit-around-417346.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/trying-get-him-back-417286.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:47:13 GMT Ok this is gonna be a long one, so be patient with me. I have a child with my first love, unfortunatly my first love turned out to be a drug addict and I left him. During the breakup time I started dating one of his former co-workers, and my childs father went to jail. When me and the co worker... Ok this is gonna be a long one, so be patient with me.
I have a child with my first love, unfortunatly my first love turned out to be a drug addict and I left him. During the breakup time I started dating one of his former co-workers, and my childs father went to jail.

When me and the co worker (Travis) started seeing each other he told me he was not ready for a relationship. Well we started seeing each other everyday and eventually it lead to us being in a relationship and telling each other we loved each other.

My lil boys dad got out of jail at the end of July and I went back to him at the beginning of September because I thought he had changed, he was doing good, and I thought it was what was best for our child, to have his mom and dad back together. Travis started dating his ex girlfriend

We did ok for about 2-3 months, but I always thought about travis, every morning, every night...i missed him, but stayed with my childs father.

Well my childs father started again with the same mess, going on drug binges. I couldnt handle it anymore so I kicked him out of my house and broke up with him. The very same day Travis messaged me on myspace to tell me he was sorry for everything that happened with us and he wished it could have been different. I wrote him back and told him me and my childs father had broke up. We talked on Saturday night and Sunday night and he said he would come to see me the following day.

I never seen him that day! Turns out my childs father called him and threatened him. He told him he would burn his house down with him in it and bust all the windows out of his truck.

So after not seeing or hearing from him, i showed up at his house and asked him what was going on. We wound up having sex and afterwards he told me he just wanted to take things slow.

So that was last night and I havent heard from him or seen him all day. I respect the fact that he wants to take things slow but how can I make him fall in love with me again the way it used to be? WE used to spend every day and night together and he was absolutely in love with me, no questions about it. ]]> Dating berrysweetncgurl http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/trying-get-him-back-417286.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/boyfriend-best-friend-situation-417238.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:29:37 GMT hello
So I've been been best friends with my friend Amy for over 10 years. We've done everything together since then. She's never had a boyfriend, and I didn't date much in high school so we've always had all the time in the world for eachother. Well..now were roomates in college. I have also found the love of my life. He's amazing..and we plan to spend the rest of our lives together. The problem is, Amy hates him. She's known him for years..and doesn't even like to look at him. She hates him..a lot. Now Amy hardly talks to me. I talk to her everyday..still joke with her and try to make her happy. She hardly talks to me. She ignores me in the dorm, and yells at me when I spend time with my boyfriend. I told her I'm thinking about moving out and moving back home. I didnt tell her it was because of her..but she wasn't happy. She yells at me for everything when she doesn't ignore me. I dont know what to do! I've sat down and talked with her, but she just gets angry and says I should break up with him. True..my boyfriend and I had problems in the beginning which is why she thinks he's no good for me. But I wont break up with him for her. She's being selfish..What do I do? ]]> Dating shoegal http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/boyfriend-best-friend-situation-417238.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/why-does-ex-tell-me-he-still-wants-date-after-recent-break-up-417132.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:02:57 GMT Ok so here is the story I will try and make this as short as possible. I have been dating this guy for going on 6 months. We use to work together but he got fired. He was in a management position and it is highly looked upon. He is 30 and I am 23. Things were always pretty good with us we had a few... Ok so here is the story I will try and make this as short as possible. I have been dating this guy for going on 6 months. We use to work together but he got fired. He was in a management position and it is highly looked upon. He is 30 and I am 23. Things were always pretty good with us we had a few tifts here and there but never could call it arguing. I recently moved into my new apartment and we spent tons of time together. Eventually i noticed him slowly bringing things over and leaving them. He had half of the closet space taken up by his clothing. He has 2 children (twins) they love coming over to my place as well. I had always felt a bit jealous of his ex for the simple fact she seemed to always try and get him to come back to her. (she broke it off with him) They were together 3 years bought a house, but never married. I myself am getting divorced, and my husband has been off seeing other people as well. Anyways--- when i confronted my guy about if he was moving in or what he got really deffensive and said he would go stay back at his place. I did not care either way just thought it was silly to pay rent elsewhere and never be there. He "lived" with me for a good 2 months. Well some things been going on with the ex and i could feel it. When his mom came down to visit she had stayed with the ex for the kids of course. One night i finally asked my guy where we stood he had been acting funny, and i wrongfuly accused him of trying to hook up with other people. I apologized and figured i would prob not hear from him so i let him vent. Come to find out he stayed at his exs house with his mom and his kids and i felt uncomfortable with that. i do not feel anything happened at all thats not what my gut is saying. --I finally sat him down and said i feel like im in an emotional triangle with you and your ex and i cant do that. He said he did not want to be in a relationship anymore, still stayed the night at my house cuddled in my bed (nothing physical happened) then the next day i dropped off his stuff at his house and bawled my eyes out in front of him. He said he still cared the relationship moved way to fast we need to slow it down. I agree too it did move fast. So i did not hear from him until the next day he was asking me what i was doing and seemed to get jealous that i went out with some friends that night. Then the next day i go out he is at the same club that i am, we went to my house and things were great i thought ok maybe things will work out with us. That night he asked me to stay with him, i did and again nothing physical happened i ended up looking through his phone (bad mistake) and saw his ex practically making a desperate attempt to get him back being spiteful to him getting mad he has it easy etc and sayin love ya to him... well that did it for me i up and left with no goodbye to him at all. i wish he could see she is messing with his head. The next night he text me asking to come over and talk, we did and nothing more. He told me he wanted to wine and dine me, develop a friendship since we moved to fast and he said he loved me.
He was suppose to watch his kids but over slept the ex and he got into a yelling match and she threatened to call me to see where he was at his reply was tell her you dont know... OK HOLD UP RED FLAG RIGHT? I was pissed off took him home and that was that until later when he asked me to come over. I told him if i did it wont be til later because i was going to movies. he tried to get me to ask him to go but i didnt, i ended up going to his house to sleep, again nothing happened other than the usual kissing like past nights. Is he toying with me? Does he really just want to date? Or he he trying to make me a booty call? im not buying into that at all. I love him deeply and was never trying to move fast with him, i feel if anyone moved fast it was him, and based on his previous girlfriend history he has moved fast with them. Maybe he got cold feet about us? can anyone give me insite on what to do please im going nuts trying to figure out all the possibilities it could be. ]]> Dating neongurl08 http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/why-does-ex-tell-me-he-still-wants-date-after-recent-break-up-417132.html http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/he-interested-not-417050.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 10:04:20 GMT So, here's my story. I went to a bar with one of my friends on Saturday (today is Wednesday) and met a guy with 2 of his friends. He approached me first and started to chat, bought me a beer and stayed by my side the entire night. After we left, we went to his friends house to play some games and talk and he flirted with me the entire time, every now and again he would just stare at me and look me really deeply into the eyes. As the night went on, he went to lay down for a minute and I went looking for him, he patted the bed next to him so I went to sit. He didn't try anything however, all he did was rub my back a little and pull me down for a kiss. Then we left, he snuck a kiss and held my hand for a bit. Then he asked me for my msn contact name (I'm in another country so phone credit is expensive) and messaged me the next afternoon. Since then, I have messaged him twice and still haven't received a response. Am I being paranoid? Did I get mixed signals? Is he shy? How do I know if he has a girlfriend? I don't want to seem desperate or clingy by being the one to always initiate but I just want to know if it's normal for a guy to ignore a girl for a few days and why? ]]> Dating anabella380 http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/he-interested-not-417050.html