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Is it rude, or is it just me?

Asked Oct 5, 2007, 04:03 PM — 21 Answers
A friend was visiting from out of town. One of her friends decided we should meet to drinks and wings at a local establishment. I was given the time of 8:00 pm. When I showed up at eight. There were 5 people there finishing their dinner. I asked if I had the time wrong? Apparently they decided to have dinner together and have others come later. That would have been me and someone else. I thought that was rude. What do you think?

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Oct 5, 2007, 04:06 PM
I think it is a bit rude. If they wanted to meet you for drinks and conversation, they should have done it at a different time, not when you and one other person can walk in and watch them finish their dinner.
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:11 PM
That disgusts me, personally I would have said to the other friends face that they disgusted me then told my friend that id talk to them later then walk out.

What did you do?
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:17 PM
It disgusts me too, actually. I have invited people to my house before and they used my phone and called take out/delivery for themselves. Now I didn't expect them to buy me anything at all, or anything like that, but they could have at least asked "do you mind if we eat in front of you"..especially in my own house.

I find it very rude for someone to sit there and eat a whole meal in front of you. What are you supposed to do, watch them? Besides the fact that they should have scheduled with you 2 hours later, or something like that. Not when you can walk in and see them eating, wondering why you didn't get invited for dinner.
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:20 PM
If I had to guess id say this other friend doesn't think very highly of others, a bit stuck up maybe, also female
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:23 PM


That was rude not to warn you, and they could have. But then, that would have been rude to invite you for only part of the evening.

I wonder why they thought two people weren't "good enough" to be included in the dinner plans.
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:24 PM
'cough'stuck-up'cough'
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Oct 5, 2007, 04:41 PM
It is not you, it is rude of those people to give you a time and place and then change their plans to include dinner and not tell you. That is such a social faux pas. Hope you walked away and went and did your own fun.
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Oct 6, 2007, 07:58 AM
I think I would have simply said "Ohhh, I see that I am late" and turned around and went home.
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Oct 6, 2007, 09:29 AM
How rude! If they wanted to have dinner they could of phoned you and invited you too. Well I hope you just left, you don't need to waist time in the company of people like that, I feel really bad for you because if someone invited me out and then did that I would be really upset.
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