I recently changed my phone number and made it unlisted because there was a guy pestering and almost stalking me, and the police recommended I change it, among other things. I've given my new number to a few select individuals, and told them that under no circumstances are they to give the number out to ANYONE, without my express permission. Anyways, so this morning someone calls who was NOT given the number!! They told me who they got the number from, and I called the person, annoyed. This person said that they had tried for a couple of days to get a hold of me to ask if they could give out the number, but couldn't reach me. So they just gave it out anyway... I was angry about this, but they acted like I shouldn't be, because the person who got the number is harmless and just wanted to know how I was doing.

Anyways, my question is, was it wrong for them to give out the number? I think it WAS wrong, because I didn't give permission, but they say I am making too big of a deal out of it.

nwsflash

You always have the option then that you can report this person for passing out your details without consent from you to do so.

orange

Yes I'm considering doing that... afterall she still thinks I'm making a big deal out of it, which makes me think she might give it out again!

nwsflash

You need to stop her before she does start giving your number out.. It would not be pleasen't if she gave you number to someone that you had been helping at the hospital, as I take it you don't use your own phone for this. She must be very stubern if she can't tell that its wrong to pass people details on with out asking..... Hell if I did this at work my *** would be outta the door before you could blink

manutd4eva

lol

it is annoying though iv had 3 new mobile numbers since the begining of 2005 but you should make it cyrstal clear ur number should not be given out.

hope she listens !!

orange

Errr... weird... I didn't realize you guys had responded to my thread again... my profile (where I look for new postings), isn't showing them... ???

Well she's old LOL. Like 70 years old. So apparently she one of those older people who's stuck in the past and doesn't get modern society... and there is no one to reprimand her because she is the past president of the organization and its most senior member. Anyways I did tell her yesterday that she was not to give out my phone number anymore, and that if she did, she would lose me as a volunteer. THAT she responded to, the losing volunteer part, haha. They are short on volunteers and use me a lot. She even apologized. But if she does it again, I WILL quit. There is another similar group in the city, and I will go to them... I told her that too... when all else fails, make threats!!

CaptainForest

That seems like a very good cause. How do you find these individuals though? Would they not try to commit suicide in private first? Nevertheless, it is good, helping them.

Sad, but true. People sometimes don't listen to reasoning or logic, but for some reason, they respond to threats.

orange

These are people who call the 24 crisis / suicide line in my city. Mobile crisis offers them a free cab to the hospital if they want it, and they also ask if they want a support person to meet them there. If they say yes, the crisis line then phones the organization I volunteer with, and they in turn phone me or another volunteer. We also get requests from orgnizations who have chronically mentally ill clients and want someone to take them to the hospital. I get asked for specially when the clients are chronic, because both my biological parents had schizophrenia and so I'm used to people in a psychotic state... I know how to talk to them and I'm not scared of them, etc.

The main reason for having someone accompany any person is that the wait times to see a psychiatrist through emergency are incredibly long!!! The shortest I waited with someone was 4 hours, and I considered that lucky! The average is over 6 hours, and I've waited with someone as long as 13 hours.

s_cianci

This person had no right whatsoever giving out your phone number. You made it quite clear that no one was to give out your phone number without your permission. You are not making too big a deal out of it. Stick to your guns. Your acquaintances will eventually get the message that your phone number gets given to nobody without your permission.

orange

Thanks for backing me up on this... I feel a lot better with everyone's responses!

nwsflash

I think after you told her you will pack it in then she will probley never do it again... Sometimes we just have to be a little blunt to get our point over !!