For various reasons, I am considering hosting a baby shower for my daughter. I've read some information on the web saying it's perfectly ok for a grandmother-to-be to host a shower, but I guess I've always thought that etiquette dictated that mothers of the guest of honor should not host a shower. There is no-one else on our side of the family who is capable of hosting. What do you think? Should I move forward with it?

lfsxthnudie

Of course you can! Your daughter deserves it! Go ahead! Who better than mom? Ask her friends to help you out with decorations and party games, I'm sure they would love to be involved, but you can certainly host the shower. Have fun!

RubyPitbull

bb, plenty of Grandmothers-to-be host baby showers for their daughters! There is absolutely no ettiquette against it. Actually, most of the time, it is the grandmother-to-be who throws the baby shower. Sometimes best girl friends do it, but it isn't considered a "must do", at all. I think you might be confusing the ettiquette of wedding showers with baby showers. Wedding showers should be held by the maid(matron) of honor.

So, move forward with it! Revel in your joy at being a new grandmother! Have fun!

Oh, and Congratulations by the way.

lacuran8626

The formal etiquette rules would say that you should not host a shower for your own daughter. That said, a lot of people could give a flip what the formal rules are, so consider your guests and whether they would be offended.

My suggestion is that perhaps you talk to one of your daughter's friends and offer to pay for the shower if she will host it (either at your home, her own home, or a different location). That way you are making sure your daughter gets the royal treatment - which is thoughtful as she's sure to enjoy it and remember it always - but you can avoid the social pitfall of hosting it yourself.

As an alternative to one of her friends, what about a close friend of your own who cares about your daughter? My wedding shower was hosted by my mother's best friend. She didn't even know most of the guests - they were my peers - but she was thrilled to do it.

DeirdreG

Go for it! Most "tradition" is slightly altered these days anyway. We are not 1950's housewives whispering over tea about the neighbor who breached baby shower etiquette. Plan the shower, host the shower and enjoy every moment of this exciting time. It's about Momma and baby...who cares what anyone else thinks! What an exiting time and congratulations!

seradee

Why not be Proud Grandma? You celebrating a new life requires no etiquette I think you should post it on a billboard in neon pink,(or blue!) Invite every one in town and absolutly have spot ligths on the both of you--you helped too! Your also giving your daughter somthing to look forward to---maybe getting to help her daughter with a baby shower someday. Plus, doing this for her will only show how much you support her and are there for her, and shell always bragg about the wonderful mom who threw her a babyshower. You have been blessed, lucky girl.