friends at work, does it end there? Is it normal,natural,acceptable to be best buds while working side by side, yet once a persons departure, is it ok or acceptable for them to suddenly get cold and distant, all those regular associations of friendship
and support dismissed? Am I so naive that, basic butt kissing is not a terrible unethical,subhuman way of getting ahead,but an accepted, universally standard method of securing support? should I accept this shameful behavior? how cold should I get to not trust anyone who comes across as friends at work?

38yearsold

Thank you. I sensed this answer was coming from the most recent replies, the moment I posted it I feared the obvious. I guess I still prefer illusion over despair Truth hurts, yet it heals faster than delusional fantasy. Thanx again for your directness.