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Asked Jul 2, 2012, 07:44 AM — 4 Answers
A new guy who is a common friend suddenly acting rude on me.Reason,he did a mistake,denying shamelessly & I revolted against it.He's talking foolish & rubbish with foul language.Trust me,I said nothing offensive to him as he is common friend & I don't wanna get down to his level.When I asked the other guys that why they're quiet after witnessing this,they mean that they wont do anything.[why people are like this?].At the end of the day,I did no fault,yet bullied & disrespected.This guys pissing me off everyday.Cheap mentality is a allergic to me.this is'nt happening to me the 1st time.How to deal with it?I dont want that guy to be winner.Being gentle is getting tiresome day by day.What to do now?

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Jul 2, 2012, 08:05 AM
Try forgiving him for being human, and learn to be a little less critical, and a little less judgmental.
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Jul 3, 2012, 02:02 AM
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Try forgiving him for being human, and learn to be a little less critical, and a little less judgmental.
I would like to do that if he,atleast once,say that it was his mistake.But he seems proud which is irritating & disrespectful to me.I want the people to know that he is the culprit.I have a good reputation in the society.If I dont fight back,I'll be proved coward.I AM NOT A COWARD !
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Jul 3, 2012, 05:46 AM
Life is a constant struggle between letting things go versus standing up to them.
If you were harmed in a concrete and permanent way, stand up to him. If he merely made you look bad in front of friends, let it go. Your friends should judge you on your merits, not on what he says or does with you. And it isn't for you to try to get them to go along with you on this either. If you can't stand this new person, and the mutual friends seem to like him, then you have to decide if you want to be friends with any of them.
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Jul 3, 2012, 09:08 AM
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Life is a constant struggle between letting things go versus standing up to them.
If you were harmed in a concrete and permanent way, stand up to him. If he merely made you look bad in front of friends, let it go. Your friends should judge you on your merits, not on what he says or does with you. And it isn't for you to try to get them to go along with you on this either. If you can't stand this new person, and the mutual friends seem to like him, then you have to decide if you want to be friends with any of them.
Nobody likes him.My friends don't want any trouble that's why they don't mess with him.If he does it again,what do I do then?I don't want to lose my friends due to him.There is meeting tomorrow where this case will be solved.What should I say to make myself justified?What should my attitude?
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