[saanu]

Hi, I am a 20-year-old girl in a relationship for the past 8 years. I know this sounds really crazy but yeah, it is going really good, and we both have been placed in two well-reputed MNCs. We are in our final year B.tech in different colleges.

I am a Brahmin and he a Marwari from the same place. I know Marwaris are very strict and convincing his parents is really difficult. I am scared if his parents do not agree--then what am I supposed to do? I am a single child so I am pretty sure my parents will have to agree down the line. :) But it's his family I am scared of, and he is very much attached to his family so that he will not run away etc with me.

In 2 years time, I know my parents will start considering matches for me. I have asked my boyfriend many times what should I do or learn to impress his mother. He says we have time, not now. And yeah his mom knows me well as a school friend and all. Still I am really tensed as to how to convince his parents. Help!

[Wondergirl]

When your boyfriend says "we have time," what does he mean?

[Kahani Punjab]

Saanu,

Convincing his parents is the only way out. No doubt, it is difficult, but its not impossible. Talk with him, about the way outs. Still, even if he procrastinates, try hard to get back to topic, as he might be avoiding of thinking of this tough task, which if fails, can get you off him. Persuation, convincing, communication are the keys. Else, elope!

[DaniCalifornia]

I for one, don't believe in changing the way you act to impress others. A good first impression, of course, is helpful, so elbows off the dinner table. But remember, his mother would be in your life for the rest of hers, so you should act naturally!

X Dani

[saanu]

Thank you guys!
Wondergirl: When he says we have time he means I am 20 years old and he 21 still in college. We do have time in our hands say another 2 years. So he does not want to rush anything right now!

[JudyKayTee]

You've been dating him since you were 12 years old? If family is important to both of you I most definitely would not run away/elope.

You have (apparently) two years to convince both sets of parents that your relationship is solid and you are good for each other. Just be yourself.