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This is my little girl Kara. She will be 9 in August. I had a boy, Flakey, who passed away several years ago, and Ms. Princess has adjusted nicely. She LOVED her brother.
Now here’s the thing. Hubby wishes for us to get Ms. Kara a playmate. We both do work and little Ms. Muffin is home alone until we get home. But weekends we all are always together. I think Missy catches up on her sleep during the week as on the weekend she doesn’t sleep much at all. (I’m up very early and she is always afraid she will miss something)
Here’s the part that concerns me. Kara, is not disinterested in other dogs, she does not like them. Not even a little. She growled at a little puppy that was just sitting looking at her. Another time I was holding her, and someone was showing me their little puppy and she made a little snap gesture. Now this is a dog that does not bark at all and never grows at all. Unless she is playing with her little dolly. My mother-in-law swears she doesn’t know how to bark
I do know that hubby and I can spend the time to acquaint the new dog with her as we don’t have any “two foot” children.
Another concern is Kara has both her little knees out and has torn her ACL once. I never want to see her in that pain again. Niether does her Daddy. We have layed carpet everywhere, even the kitchen, so Miss muphet doesn’t reinjure herself.
I’m concerned the new little one will rip and run and Kara hurting herself again. We are going to look at the foster babies, but I am so leary of that. I am so afraid to bring in a semi adult dog, when no one really knows its complete background, and if the foster baby bites Kara or vice versa. I would be devastated. So we are leaning towards a new puppy.
Are we doing wrong by Ms. Kara, getting her a playmate, when she appears to be very happy and is happiest when on Mommies lap. Her Daddy thinks she needs a playmate, but Mommy will be doing all the puppy work . Oh but that kind of work is a work of love.
I just want to do right by Princess Kara.
I value and appreciate your advice. You folks on this forum are simply the best.
Hi Allheart
We had a dog a few years back but sadly he passed away my daughter loved him loads he would follow her everywhere and sleep on her bed which i did not allow she waited till i was a sleep and then let him in
I would not have another dog due to him passing my daughter was devistated and i do not think i could put her through that pain again
When my oldest son got his very own dog, he was 12 years old. We got him a redbone puppy. What a sweetheart he was. Ben named him Rusty. Good natured, friendly, easy to train. He had that deep bawl. Just a nice dog. had him for about a year and a half when my husband decided Rusty needed to go so HE could get some lame excuse for a coon hound - a grand de bleu gascon from North Carolina. Tore Ben's heart. In fact my husband never told Ben what he was going to do - he did it when Ben went to school. What a dirty thing to do to anyone. Ben never wanted anything to do with dogs after that, until we got Rosie. Rosie healed his heart, protected Brandon, and just took care of business.
Why thank you my good friend Nicki who I love dearly. My "daughter" Kara is a beauty isn't she, and such a good girl.
Thank you Nicki
Um Shy and Alten....what's a matter doggie got your tongue??? Neither of my other very good friends said how beautiful my little one was...hmmmmmmm Come on ...cough it out
( Oh heavens, would I be one of those Mommies with a two foot child....I would hope not..buuuut think I might have that tendency....as long as they were good....and of course they would be
My apologies - Kara is a cutie! I love her expression on that picture. She looks well loved. Isn't it amazing the unconditional love an pet can give us? They listen when we are blue, just like they understand it all. And who knows? Maybe they do.
Of course Kara is adorable, that goes without saying, we thought you knew that. Okay, okay, I meant to say it and I didn't, but better late than never right?
Our dogs each choose a child to sit by and the switch every night, that way it's equal. Indy gained 15 pounds when Jared started eating solid food, but I'm one of the few mothers out there that didn't have to constantly clean the floor even though there was a new eater in it.
Our second fur baby Jasper (the 7 year old Border collie) was a shelter rescue. We adopted him when he was 4 months old.
That poor little guy had been through a lifetime of pain and suffering at the age of 4 months, at first my husband didn't want to get him, he didn't think the little fellow would ever be completely okay and we had 3 year old Jared and a baby on the way to think about. I insisted that I could nurture this little guy into a trusting loving dog, I knew in my heart that all he needed was love and a gentle hand, some patience and the room to grow and he would blossom.
My husband relented and Jasper came home with us. For the first few weeks he would leave the room every time we entered it, he would tuck his tail in if we a laughed, it was too high pitched and he thought we were yelling. He was skin and bones and a tangle of nerves. After 3 weeks of trying to connect with this pup I was beginning to think that my husband was right, maybe it was too late to make him see that people were good.
I didn't give up and ended up with a volunteer for the "Rescue Jasper" program, Indy. After Indy stepped in we had a new puppy on our hands. The transformation within a few weeks was amazing. They are best buds, I know it will hurt Jasper terribly when Indy goes to the Rainbow Bridge, but he now loves us humans too and we'll help get him through it like I'm sure he'll help us.
Now he's my Piss and Vinegar dog who loves to play, loves the kids and would really like for me to take one of the bunnies out of the cage and turn my back for just a minute. "It's not going to happen Jasper, they're my fur babies too."
If you want to experience unconditional love then look into the eyes of a dog.
I think if you want to get another dog it shouldn't be a puppy but it should be a
male between 3 and 7 same breed as your other that would sort of remind Kara of Flakey.
When my Choux was older and sick it really perked up her spirits and got her playful when I got another dog a bit younger.
It would be best to make sure they can get along when you go looking rather than bringing
it home "Kara here is your new buddy" and expecting her to take to him. So I suggest take Kara and let her pick one out.
Just to give an update. We did call about a 5 year old male that was available. The owner was very honest and described the males behaviour. Oh I am so familiar with her story.
Seems her little guy has aggresive issues (doesn't like to be picked up and such), and hubby and I are well versed with this type of baby. The lady doesn't want to give him up but her hubby does. I gave her some tips of things that we did with our "special needs" guy and she things hubby is going to change his mind. She has two daughters that were crying there eyes out. She was a beutiful hearted lady and I think with alot of love and patience they should be okay.
I did tell her her little guy and my little girl may not be the best match. I think we are going to leave our little angel just the way it is.
See this is how she lays when Mommy is busy. I just snapped the picture of her as I was ironing. I don't think she looks sad??? She is enjoying the warm sunshine by the door there and waiting for me to get done. Right? ...I hope so. You don't think she looks sad...do you?
Thank you all so much for all of your advice and for being there.
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