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Hello. My husband is a dog person, I HATE dogs...(HATE!!!).
He wants a dog and won't shut up about it, I DO NOT want a dog. I am not willing to take on the responsibilities....I know what it's like to have to care for a puppy/dog...he does not. He couldn't take care of a goldfish, if that gives you a clue.
There is no way to compromise this issue, obviously. If we had a dog, I would be forced to take on a huge burden AND live with something I find just plain disgusting. Dogs are a huge responsibility, he just doesn't "get" that. And if we got a dog, I would be the one who would have to take on the majority of the responsibility.
What can I say to him to get it through his head? I'm sick of arguing about it. Whenever I say "No, I am not willing to take on a dog", he plays it as if I'm punishing him and the kids by keeping them from having a dog. He knew well before we were married that I HATED dogs, so no surprise there.
Ah, well without knowing if you have a big fenced in yard or where you live I couldn't begin to tell you the answer to that one. But if it was an idea you were agreeable to if you did have a big fenced in yard, you could always tell him, you fence it yourself you can have an OUTSIDE dog. It COULD potentially solve the problem. My ex husband was like this about dogs too, and I told him no unless he took on the responsibility, he said ok, we got her, he never did anything to train her whatsoever. The day I watched her pin my 2 year old son to the ground I called a buddy of his and gave her to them, they had wanted her badly anyway. So men who want a dog they probably won't take care of get no sympathy from me. You might even be doing the dogs of the world a favor if he wouldn't care for the dog like he claims. Have him chew on that one sometime.
You're right. I know him, I know him WELL, and I know he won't properly care for the dog.....and it'll get worse and worse as the "newness" of it wears off. Just like the weight set, the project truck, and so on!! I know him so well, when he had to have this stupid wieght set (once again, wouldn't shut up about it!!) I made him sign a contract. I put in everything I thought would happen, and whaddya know, it all came true!! Oh, I still pull out that contract and laugh and laugh!!
He's the type of person who has this grand idea in his head but he's lazy and impatient. He probably wants a dog that'll walk by his side and chase a ball and ride alongside him in the truck, but that's not really realistic. And he's not thinking about the "work" part of it all and how much time it would take to get a puppy to become what you want it to, it's generally years before your dog calms down and behaves great and is most trustworthy. He's surely not thinking of what it's like to have to take the dog out to potty all winter long, or on rainy days. Or raking up it's poo in the cold or rain (or anytime for that matter!!).
Yeah, an outside dog would be an answer, but what's the point? He'll never play with it. We can't afford fencing for a dog anyway. And my luck, the thing will get loose and go on a crime spree!!
Hahaha. A weight set is way different than an animal though, you are very right to tell him no when it comes to another life. A dog isn't a novelty toy, its a living breathing chewing fluffy being that deserves proper care and a good quality of life.
Oh.. god... you should get him one of those electronic dogs for Christmas!
Lol, good mindset! Live up to your old committments before you try to start a new one! lol
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Chey5782 agrees: I would SO do that next time he makes eyes at you about a dog. Cynics and Experts agree!
passmeby agrees: LOL!! Yeah, I could print it out, think he'd notice huge gaps and missing pages??
I didn't expect a greenie, let alone two, for that post. It's all good, I'll take what I can get!
Besides, passme, that's what paint's for! Screenshot, cut out the posts that you don't want, drag the others to look like one chain, and copy paste the numbers to look like you didn't edit it! When you print it, your husband would be none the wiser!
Lol, anyway, it was just a joke.
I do agree. If he can't commit to something to better himself, *cough*weightset*cough*, then he would only, make life miserable for a dog. Completely agree with you there.
I am a little late for this thread but I will add my comments anyway
Definately do not, ever get a dog! Even with the compromise.
No matter how much he begs and pleads, a dog should be brought up in a loving home, not with someone who hates it.
I don't think a dog would be happy in your home with you as the primary caregiver.He would sense your dislike and resentment and would probably suffer from any number of neurosis.
Dogs are very attuned to that sort of thing and your husband should know that if he is even considering a dog.
They are extremely sensitive to human emotion and he would not be happy.
That should be the bottom line,it would be a match made in hell and no one wins.
I agree that taking care of goldfish is different than taking care of dogs. I think he wants to get a dog because it is something people like to have as a part of good memories for then and their kids growing up. And you can't walk and play catch with other pets. Then when you do get the dog the other pets tend to get neglected more sometimes.
I think the kids will get stuck cleaning up after the dog.
If you do get a dog I'd get something like a Jack Russel and build it a big dog house outside so it has a place outside as well as letting him in the house too if that is possible.
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