is my wife having a work place affair?

MARATHORN · #1 Aug 23, 2009, 07:29 AM

she use to talk about her male work mate each time she came back from work until one day this guy called her on her mobile while she was off duty at home with me. i got annoyed and slapped her. but she insist they are only work mates. three weeks later she had vulva candidiosis and she voluntarily called me and showed me. i accused her of having got it from extra-marrital sexual contact to which she refused and said she probably got it from the toilet pan at work. my wife is a nurse i do not expect her to claim that she can get sti from the toilet pan. kindly advise. what do i do. is she cheating on me?

Just Dahlia · Aug 23, 2009, 07:43 AM

Well first of all you should NEVER slap your spouse!

Second you might want to post this question in the 'health threads' to get a medical opinion.

artlady · Aug 23, 2009, 07:51 AM

Vulva candidiasis is not a sexually transmitted disease.It is a common yeast infection.

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Vaginal yeast infections occur when new yeast is introduced into the vaginal area, or when there is an increase in the quantity of yeast already present in the vagina relative to the quantity of normal bacteria. For example, when the normal, protective bacteria are eradicated by antibiotics (taken to treat a urinary tract, respiratory, or other types of infection) or by immunosuppressive drugs, the yeast can multiply, invade tissues, and cause irritation of the lining of the vagina (vaginitis).

Vaginal yeast infections can also occur as a result of injury to the inner vagina, such as after chemotherapy. Also, women with suppressed immune systems (for example, those taking cortisone-related medications such as prednisone) develop vaginal yeast infections more frequently than women with normal immunity. Other conditions that may predispose women to developing vaginal yeast infections include diabetes mellitus, pregnancy, and taking oral contraceptives. The use of douches or perfumed vaginal hygiene sprays may also increase a woman's risk of developing a vaginal yeast infection.

A vaginal yeast infection is not considered to be a sexually transmitted infection (STD), since Candida may be present in the normal vagina, and the condition does occur in celibate women. However, it is possible for men to develop symptoms of skin irritation of the penis from a yeast infection after sexual intercourse with an infected partner.

Yeast Infection Symptoms, Causes, and Treatment by MedicineNet.com

NeedKarma · Aug 23, 2009, 07:55 AM

And he may have given it to her since men can be carriers. He may have gotten the yeast infection from a gay bar or vigorous masturbation in an unsanitary area. She must be quite annoyed, she should slap him...with a lawsuit.

MARATHORN · Aug 23, 2009, 08:21 AM

i love my wife. we have one child. i hate being fooled and it appears that i have lost trust in her. if she accepted that she has an affair what next. ofcose i do not expect her to accept. but how do i start trusting her? would knowing why she cheats on me help ? we have been married for 5 years now. i would like to give her a chance but i need to be sure that she will not cheat again or should i simply devorce her ?

MARATHORN · Aug 23, 2009, 08:28 AM

i love my wife. we have one child. i hate being fooled and it appears that i have lost trust in her. if she accepted that she has an affair what next. ofcose i do not expect her to accept. but how do i start trusting her? would knowing why she cheats on me help ? we have been married for 5 years now. i would like to give her a chance but i need to be sure that she will not cheat again or should i simply devorce her ?

Catsmine · Aug 23, 2009, 08:35 AM

I cannot make sense of your question. Please re-write it and hit the preview button to proofread it before you post it again so we can help you, or at least answer your question.

artlady · Aug 23, 2009, 08:36 AM

You have already posted this once.
Because your wife has a yeast infection does not mean she cheated.
Do you have any proof?

Catsmine · Aug 23, 2009, 08:38 AM

Or she might have gotten it from making bread.