my wife just filed for divorce. what happens next ? if we work things out, then what ? i live in california. i do not want a divorce.

George_1950

Just curious: how do you know she just filed for divorce?

igman

we had an argument last night and we both stayed home from work today and then she left in the morning. when she came back i started talking to her (apologizing) and she said it was too late....she just came back from filing the paperwork.

George_1950

So, she didn't have a copy? You are entitled to a copy. She will either provide it or have you served by a deputy, ordinarily.

Fr_Chuck

She normally can't "just file" she may have gotten paper work, may have talked to an attorney,

But if she files, you will be served with paper work, there will be a court date, perhaps mediation. If she wants a divorce there in the long run is nothing you can do to stop it.

George_1950

Are any children involved?

igman

yes....3 children

George_1950

If you are served a copy of the divorce petition, a period of time begins by the end of which you must file an answer and perhaps a counterclaim. It may be as much as 20 to 30 days after your are served. During this time, you can seek help from counseling. It sounds like it would be beneficial for you and your spouse, if she is willing. But go yourself to get things started.