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piglet1 · Apr 16, 2007, 02:18 PM

I'm 26yrs old and I have a 2yrs old daughter and another on the way in the next couple of weeks. I don't love him as I used to do he's hit me in the pass and he blames me for calling the police on him. At the moment he's stays out all night and doesn't tell me, to top it off I'm 38 weeks pregnant and he turns the phone off so I can't call me. He goes out drinking and doesn't tell me and if me does tell me he says what time he will be home and he doesn't he comes home couple of hours later, if got to do everything at the moment and I just fell so nickered all the time. My daughter is very hyper and keeps me on my toes all the time. My dad and I have told him about his drinking and how its not far on our daughter and the unborn baby as well, but he keeps on doing it, he just says "i'm keep nagging him. I want to leave but I have Know money and I'm not working at the moment. My family doesn't want to know and I haven't got any friend that I can turn to. So PLEASE can someone give me some advice want I can do. I'm always crying all the time, with so much pain all of this is doing to me.:( :(

ScottGem · Apr 16, 2007, 02:25 PM

You need to RUN to a battered wives support group. They will help you get shed of this loser.

J_9 · Apr 16, 2007, 02:26 PM

Scott is right here. There are shelters that will help you along the way, but you need to get out before the cycle of abuse escillates.

shygrneyzs · Apr 16, 2007, 02:30 PM

Yes, call your local women's shelter, or abuse shelter, or even the homeless shelter and tell them what you are experiencing. He is both physically and emotionally abusive to you - you do not need to take that. You deserve better than that. Can your Father help you short term? As in allowing you and your child to live there? I understand the part about having no money. If you got to a safe place, like a shelter, a counselor can help you in getting some assistance and apply for housing and the whole nine yards. WIC for the newborn and your other child. Contacting Legal Aid in your state for an attorney (sliding scale fee) would be a great benefit to you. You need to know your rights and how you can legally protect yourself and your children. Also to find out what your husband's legal responsibilities. He has them and will most likely try to scare you or threaten you or just plain get out of his duties.

Your family needs to know, why would they stick their heads in the sand about this? Are they afraid of your husband? Call the police if you have to and explain how you feel terrorized. There are places to call and I truly hope you get some help and get some counseling and get to safety.

Matt3046 · Apr 16, 2007, 02:34 PM

Call around and find some help. Usually the united way is a good start.
Once you get some legal help you can file, a civil court order to have him removed from the house, and to seize bank accounts.
There are not any guarantees that this will work but it is a start. These things happen all the time the system is set up to respond to the needs of women (which can be somewhat unfair to some men) but the point is you do have options. Look here

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Krs · Apr 17, 2007, 06:33 AM

You are better off without him.
Have u got any close family who can support and help you out?

Fr_Chuck · Apr 17, 2007, 06:52 AM

First I will question this a bit, you say "your dad has talked to him" so obviously your dad is involved, will he not help you ?

And family is their for that, you show up with a suitcase and most will let you stay. If not there are shelters in the US for women in your situation.