I have the first meeting with my attorney, my husband and his attorney soon. I learned in the preliminary meeting with my attorney that my husband is filing for custody, child support and alimony. The alimony is based on him saying that he does not have the income to maintain the home that he will retain since he runs an online business out of along with cash sales. I will retain a second home of near equal value. His business earns him approximately 30% more than he is stating due to the ease of hiding the cash sales. He has chosen to do this business for 10 years even though he has an MBA and also an engineering background. In my opinion he is a slack husband looking for an easy ride through life. I have worked two jobs to make ends meet and my income is about 40,000 more than what he claims.

He is also claiming that since he has been home daily with the kids (15 & 18) for ten years and I have worked long days and Saturdays that he should have custody along with support because he has raised them basically. He has at times been physically abusive toward my children (I had to get between them) and stop him from hitting them. He has constantly yelled at me until I was in tears, verbally abused, name calling and accused me of infidelity in front of my children. A control freak that just don't understand that no woman wants a man that shows zero respect for anyone.

Is it possible in Massachusetts that I may have to keep two jobs to pay him his wishes even though he has the MBA education, the earning capability and has in the past worked in upper management?

Scared and Nervous Responsible Mother, tired of taking care of a slack husband!

RubyPitbull

Yes Scott, you are right.

nc, I am also getting from your posts that your husband is not actively involved with taking your son to his doctor's appts? Is he actively involved in taking your son anywhere or are you the one that does it all? If he isn't, that is another thing you need to tell your lawyer for custody. Your attorney needs to ask your son who does the cooking, feeding, cleaning, shopping, takes him to appts,.... that will go a long way if your son testifies that you are the one who does all those things for the family. At his age, he doesn't need constant supervision. He is in school all day and there is probably only a couple of hours that he would be home alone. So, it is not necessary for a full time stay at home parent.