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  • Mar 4, 2009, 05:09 PM
    quietgirl
    Not the father but signed the birth certificate.
    My son's father got married to a woman who was already pregnant. She convinced him to sign the birth certificate when the baby was born so they would have the same name. The baby is now a year old and they are getting divorced. Will he be required to pay child support even though this is not his biological child?
  • Mar 4, 2009, 05:27 PM
    atl30
    From much experience with the court systems, unfortunately since he did sign the birth certificate he may have to pay child support because he is the one named on the certificate, unless he gets a paternity test to prove he is not the biological father and then the court may then remove his name from it
  • Mar 4, 2009, 07:45 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes at this point he will. And in some states he may have to pay even with a DNA test. Some states will not allow a challenge after a certain time frame.
  • Mar 4, 2009, 07:56 PM
    asking

    Are you sure he's not the father? I would not take him at his word at this point.

    It is not necessary for him to be on the birth certificate for the baby to have his name. So I feel it's POSSIBLE your married boyfriend has invented a reason to satisfy you.

    Also, how old is your son? Was he born before or after this other baby?
  • Mar 5, 2009, 10:14 AM
    quietgirl
    I know he is not the father. He met her after we broke up when she was already 6 months pregnant. Our son is three.
  • Mar 5, 2009, 01:22 PM
    DoulaLC

    It may depend on where they live. Since he signed the birth certificate knowing the child was not actually his, that can play a significant role and he may find it difficult to change things.

    If he had signed it thinking the child was his, only to find out later it wasn't, that would be a different story.

    He should look into the laws of where you are regarding paternity, birth certificates, and legal responsibility.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 10:48 PM
    GeorgeMcCasland
    This fully depends on your particular state laws. He should request a DNA test. If it's refused, go for custody. The mother is still allowed to use it to prevent custody, but she forfeits any child support claim. Here's what he needs to know.

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  • Mar 23, 2009, 05:54 PM
    Murraystate

    I hate to say this, but I think he will have to pay as well. My friend's ex wife got pregnant by another man, that man died in a car crash and when the baby was born instead of putting the child's father's name she actually signed my friend's name. He is now paying child support for his two children and the child who's father died. He has tried to take it to court, but they said his name is on the birth certificate so S.O.L.

    On the flip side... the child does need a father, specially if "he" has been playing father already. Maybe he should keep that relationship.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 11:38 PM
    bornoutofaffair
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by quietgirl View Post
    My son's father got married to a woman who was already pregnant. She convinced him to sign the birth certificate when the baby was born so they would have the same name. The baby is now a year old and they are getting divorced. Will he be required to pay child support even though this is not his biological child?

    Yes he would have to pay childsupport. I am born out of an affair where my mother cheated on Steve with his best friend who is my bio father. I learned this when I was the age of 10:(:mad: I don't remember ever asking her about it, but she told me. So on that note yes he has to pay the alimony.
  • Oct 28, 2009, 05:28 AM
    smoothy
    Dumb move signing that... just like legal adoption... when the signature goes on the line... you bought it, lock stock and barrel for all its worth.

    Do I think its right forcing a guy to pay for a kid that's not biologically his own?. NO... and a resounding no. But my opinion does not make law. The biological father should be forced to pay. And except in the case of rape... the woman know who she slept with... DNA will prove which one completed the task.


    But in many cases he would likely get shafted having to pay... even if he didn't sign it.
  • Oct 28, 2009, 09:23 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bornoutofaffair View Post
    yes he would have to pay childsupport. I am born out of an affair where my mother cheated on Steve with his best friend who is my bio father. I learned this when I was the age of 10:(:mad: I dont remember ever asking her about it, but she told me. So on that note yes he has to pay the alimony.



    Alimony has nothing to do with child support.

    This is a March 2009 thread - not sure the OP has come back.

    Maybe it's time to close.
  • Dec 16, 2010, 08:16 AM
    plowing
    My son and his girlfriend had a baby a year ago. He signed birth certificate and declaration of parentage. They just broke up , she filing for support. He never had a dna done, so he got one done. Results came back he is not the biological father. What do we do to get his name off certificate
  • Dec 16, 2010, 08:18 AM
    plowing
    What if u signed birth certificate and parental rights? How can u get taken off
  • Dec 16, 2010, 08:51 AM
    smoothy

    Plowing... you are better off starting your own thread rather than piggybacking on someone else's where its #1 a Different issue, and #2 less likely to be addressed.
  • Feb 15, 2011, 06:06 AM
    pinkholly
    I am looking on ifomation about a friend putting his name on his parteners birth certificate as the dad and is prepeared to look after the child. But her biological dad has returned after leaving her mum when she told him she was pregnant. Will he have any rights??
  • Feb 15, 2011, 09:07 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Yes, if he's the biological father he has rights. He will probably have to go to Court to exercise those rights, though.

    Your "friend" is committing a crime if she knowingly puts someone's name on because, knowing that person is NOT the father.
  • Nov 30, 2011, 03:20 PM
    JAY03_1986
    I don't know but I will get back to this I am going threw the same myself I was married to my wife since 2008 and in 2010 she cheated on me and got pregnant, and had that child and that made me question my forst child so I'm going to take a dna test and I hope he is mine but if he is not I wonder will I have to pay child support or will I be held responsible forced by the court system or do I have a choice cause I would have believed my son was mine until the recent incident.
  • Apr 2, 2012, 09:44 AM
    sanai
    Can a divorced woman change the name her child's father by the man's name that she is going to marry?
  • Apr 2, 2012, 09:53 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Where?
  • Apr 28, 2012, 07:41 AM
    pammanning3646
    In Ohio can a man get into trouble with the law for signing a birth certificate when he knew the child was not his.

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