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How much truth is in this article, Why more Fathers are getting custody?
This is my first time knowing that nowadays fathers mostly win the custody of their children over the mothers. A little suprised on this change of trend because usually mothers win the custody of the children. But happy since fathers can now fight and have their children. What can you say about this?
Actually I am going through a divorce right now and my ex-husband is getting custody of our son. He makes twice as much as I do, had the house before we were married and has his mom and dad baby sit during the day. Since I have left him, I can barely afford my half of the bills much less taking care of my son financially. I felt that the right thing to do for my son was to let him stay with his father so he can be provided for and live in a stable home. I live in an apartment on the top floor and that is no place for a toddler.
I think for many years men simply didn't fight for custody, or assumed they couldn't win, but now are more cognizant of their strength and capabilities as parents and ask for it. My brother just assumed in this way, and when we told him to ask for residential custody, he won.
I can say that no matter what I would fight for my child whether I lived in a old beat up trailer or an apartment. Come on, you don't have to be "set" to be the best thing for your kids. Go dads go. That is what I say. Do what is right whether you are a father or a mother. Although it sure would be nice if we could stay with the eachother and do right by our kids. Hard as that may be, or as uncomfortable, as soon as the kids start coming, we should be living for them not ourselves. (for the most part at least) Totally off subject and i am sorry but this is a sore subject for me. Go dads go and go moms go, fight for your babies, they can't fight for themselves.
I think it is great that Fathers are fighting for and gaining custody of their children. There is nothing that says men cannot be as great a parent as a woman can. In some cases they are better.
Alot more men are getting custody today than 20 years ago, and even 10 years ago, but by and large still the majority of custody still goes to the mothers.
But as more and more judges are seeing parents as equal and more and more are getting more liberal yes, men are starting to see a increase. But this is over all, there are still alot of judges where the women has an advantage going into the court room.
More fathers win custody of their children because today they fight for it. Just read another article that the reason why fathers already fight for their right of having their children is because of the removal of "tenders Years doctrine" from the court. And the reason why they removed it from courts is because they realized that women are not always a better parent.
If I have a child and I have not much money to raise him/her alone, I would have also asked my ex to get custody of him/her. As a parent we only want what is best for the child.
I can say that no matter what I would fight for my child whether I lived in a old beat up trailer or an apartment. Come on, you don't have to be "set" to be the best thing for your kids. Go dads go. That is what I say. Do what is right whether you are a father or a mother. Although it sure would be nice if we could stay with the eachother and do right by our kids. Hard as that may be, or as uncomfortable, as soon as the kids start coming, we should be living for them not ourselves. (for the most part at least) Totally off subject and i am sorry but this is a sore subject for me. Go dads go and go moms go, fight for your babies, they can't fight for themselves.
My ex-husband is not a bad father. If he was a horrible parent that didn't give a darn about our son then yes I would have fought for him. I would have fought to the death. My ex and I didn't get along and we had issues but the divorce was never because he nor I was a bad parent. I want my son to be able to live in a stable home where his father can get him the neccesities that he needs. I have been moving every other month trying to find a place that is liveable. The places I can afford are not in the best condition and I don't have a vehicle. My son is the most important person in the world to me and I would never fight for him knowing that I couldn't support him once I got him.
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