my parents have been divorced since i was 2 years old& my brother was 7 years old. ever since then, i've been living with my father because he has custody of the both of us. i don't know what kind of custody it is because i don't dare ask him about it. my dads not a very open person at all. lately, my dad hasn't been letting me go visit my mother. i dont believe that he can do that, right? also, i've been getting really sick of my father lately. i really really can't stand him at all anymore. i've been thinking, maybe i should go live with my mother? i love my mother to death& i dont even get along with my father so whats the point of living with him? but im wondering, am i allowed to just go move in with her? do i have to do any court stuff? i'm really confused. please help?

sbriggs

hi there...my kids just went through the same thing..at your age you are allowed by law to tell a judge where you want to go and who you want to be with.
Talk to someone at school or church, they can help you! Good luck,be happy..you deserve it!

zell3123

the answer to that question is impossible to say with the information provided. What I would suggest is to go to a resource officer at your school and talk to him about it. He will more than likely be able to sort everything out in a legal, easy, simple manner. I was actually in the same situation as you just with my mom not my dad, so I know how you feel.

Moose1123

In California the age a minor can make the choice where to live is 18. Some states it is younger but not here. About going to live with your mother. Just remember the grass is always greener over the septic tank. If your father has full custody and you do not see your mom much are you wanting to go live with her because you are trying to get your dads attention. You need to find out why your father has full custody of you and not joint custody. There may be a reason you do not know about. Maybe you should try to get your dad to open up about your mother and try to go visit her more. Get to know her before deciding to move.
I have 50 / 50 joint custody of my two teens. Used to be when they got in trouble or got mad for having to follow the house rules I would hear 'I don't want to live with you anymore I am going to go live with mom.' My ex wife heard the same when they were mad at her. They have learned that things and rules may be different at each house and learned to deal with it. Moving out is a serious choice and not to be taken lightly or made because a kid is mad. Talk with father, talk with grandparents. You might find a lot of Dads just do not know how to talk to their kids. Opening up may just be uncomfortable for him. Good Luck.