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How do I accept the person my wife had an affair with
We were married for 14 years, we had three children. After discovering that my wife was using drugs, having an affair and putting our children in a bad enviroment, I got a divorce and now have full custody of our children. My wife who is almost 40, had an affair with the person she was using drugs with, he is a 25 year old boy. Now I believe they are married. The court ordered her to keep him away from our kids, but now that they are married, I dont think I can stop them from being around him (I dont think she knows this). My question is, should I be expected to accept him? And how? He is part of our lives now, but I cant stand him. I have never met him and I dont want to because I think I would hurt him. I would love to hear from someone else who has been in the same situation.
The court ordered her to keep him away from our kids, but now that they are married, I dont think I can stop them from being around him (I dont think she knows this). .
Sounds to me as though you had a lawyer. Perhaps you didn't. By marrying this guy, your ex may have forfeited her visitation. There has been a change in condition since the initial custody determination, so request a modification which limits her to two hours per day, one day per week, visitation.
You don't have to accept him, especially if he is putting your children in harms way.
Get a lawyer, see if you could have your ex and the other guy, drug tested [ urine, blood, hair ]. Maybe you could have child social services "visit" the place of residence?
I agree, your first priority is to protect your children from harm. If that harm is in the form of their mother and her drug supplier that is the consequences she must pay. Go back to court and get sole custody and try and get the judge to terminate her parental rights.
no you do nit have accept him he is a jerk, and quite frankly so is your wife. it's now your job to be a good father and make your kkids your first priorty let your personell feelings about this jerk aside and just be a great dad
no, you don't even have to ever see or meet him if you don't want, ok at some of the kids events they may come but it is ok to be rude to him if you wish. Now down the road if you find a new love and she is perfect, you may think he is the best friend, since if not for him you may have never meet your perfect mate.
If you have full custody of your kids and a court order for the new husband to stay away, then he is not a part of your lives now. He is a part of your ex wife's life. You do not have to accept him. You do not have to let your kids around him. Full custody is full custody. You make the decisions. If their mother wishes to see the kids it is on your terms not hers. She can take you to court to request partial custody. Does she have any visitation rights? If so since you have a court order that states he must stay away... then he must stay away. You can request supervised visits. Your kids come first.
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