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  • Dec 27, 2008, 02:17 AM
    ineedanewlife
    I have only been married nine months, and I want a divorce.
    My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years, been married less than a year. I didn't want to marry him in the first place, but I did anyway, knowing it was bad idea. My husband is a very lazy person, the last eight years he has never held a job longer than 90 days. He hasn't held a real job none this year, he got fired from his job in January, and haven't had one since. We have two daughters together and I also have a 8 year old son, that's not his. I'm getting sick and tired of taking cre of a grown man. I'm kind of sscared to leave him, because he is the stalker type. The last time we were separated he would lurk around my house and peep ino windows. I just want him away from me and out of my life. How should I go about getting a divorce only being married ninie months?
  • Dec 27, 2008, 08:30 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    The real question is why you married him in the first place, and why you did not leave him and stay gone years ago, and why you went back, after you left and he was lurking.

    So you leave, if he lurks, call the police, if he peeps in the window have him arrested, get a restraining or a protective order against him if he scares you.

    You get a divorce the same way after 9 months that you do after 9 years, you leave, you file for custody of the kids and a child support order and file for divorce,
  • Dec 27, 2008, 08:31 AM
    mrscoltweaver

    Check your state laws. When a divorce decree is made and signed, a restraining order is immediately in effect in some states. You may have to ask for it in others. Move in with family members or good friends for the first weeks or have them stay with you. Staying with you is preferrable to keep things as normal as possible for the kids. Sounds like he has you somewhat beaten down-don't give up, stand firm and follow through with what you say. If divorce is indeed what you want, don't look back. Your relationship must now be a "Business" relationship, so too speak for the future welfare of the kids.
  • Dec 30, 2008, 11:47 AM
    ineedanewlife

    I got some information on an uncontested divorce.
  • Mar 7, 2012, 03:31 PM
    yourmothersir
    Divorce him, get a restraining order, and just in case get a gun, gun training, and some self defense classes.

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