Handling my ex wife's property

OMG · #1 Sep 16, 2007, 07:23 PM

Just wondering if anyone out there knows if it's illegal for me to pack my wife's property without her permission. We've been separated since April and she has decided that while she doesn't need any of her belongings, she also isn't all that interested in getting her hands back on them anytime soon.

I am attempting to move on with my life and I'm pretty sure she's receiving erroneous advice and information from a non-legal source.

Thoughts?

startover22 · Sep 16, 2007, 07:28 PM

Maybe you should tell her that you are going to pack it and put it out side. Do it on a weekend so you know she can come get it. Tell her you will be gone from this time to this time, when you get back if it is not gone, then good will it....Good luck!!

Lowtax4eva · Sep 16, 2007, 07:28 PM

If she doesnt want her stuff ask if she will send you something in writing saying you can dispose of it or put it in storage or send it to her.... or whatever.

What does she say when you ask what you should do with her stuff?

OMG · Sep 16, 2007, 07:30 PM

The complication here is that I don't want her in the house without me here. Conversely, she doesn't trust me to pack it for her.

Due to some threats made against my safety (which she does not know that I have electronic versions of), I have also changed the locks.

startover22 · Sep 16, 2007, 07:33 PM

Is there someone you both know that can be there with you at the same time?

OMG · Sep 16, 2007, 07:35 PM

Nobody that I would trust and probably nobody that she would trust either.

It's definitely not an ideal situation and if you happen to notice the other posts on these forums, you would understand why.

startover22 · Sep 16, 2007, 07:41 PM

Ok, OMG....you (if she won't) need to make arrangements....have your mother, your daughter, your son, your friend, your someone be there...camera and phone in hand...tell her her stuff will be out by such and such date and get this overwith....
You say you want to move on...it is time. There has to be some way to get one of each of your friends to come together in this situation. Move on..and do it quick, you will be happier sweet.....It is time to get this done....

OMG · Sep 16, 2007, 07:43 PM

Now if only she wasn't claiming to be homeless.

I'm probably just going to continue to pack her things, even if there is a law against it. I've got it all collected in the basement in one spot. I'm protecting her breakable items by wrapping them up as well.

startover22 · Sep 16, 2007, 07:48 PM

You are being very kind to do that. I tell you what, if you need to come back and talk, that would be just fine. As far as i am concerned, I just wouldn't want her lingering.....I would want to move on. Maybe a friend of hers or a family member can take her things and hold them till she gets on her feet. Hugs to you for being so kind in a hard situation.

OMG · Sep 16, 2007, 07:51 PM

Thanks!

Now if only she thought I was being kind. She spends the majority of her time seething at me (she doesn't work) and the rest of it emailing me and demanding that I give her money because it's my fault that she is where she's at. I've almost come to the point where I may go to court for a non-contact order because of the stress that the situation is putting on me.

I never believed that men could ever get caught up in abusive relationships until I got out of mine. Breathing again has never felt so sweet.



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