We do not know if a friend is divorced or separated she will not say. I odd thing is her husband and her kids live a minute walk away from each other. Have you ever heard of ex's living this close?

Fr_Chuck

while I think it is silly I have heard of people divorced living in the same house, even know a few.

People living next door don't have to see each other if they don't want to, and it does work good for the kids to see both parents.

And I guess they don't think it is any of your business. if you are a friend, you support them, be there for them, and help them, if and when they are ready to tell you, they can.

brw15

My friend told she is divorced her husband says they are not

Fr_Chuck

so??? does it really matter, unless this friend is someone you are starting to date. Perhaps they have filed but it is not settled, perhpas they are and he has not accepted it.

How long have they been apart, you can of course go down to the county court house and look up the divorce records if you have to know

brw15

Its not that I have to know you need to get some manners you are very rude. I do counseling. Please try a little kindness.

Fr_Chuck

sorry if you think I am rude, but to me it sounds rude that you will not just take your friends comments for what they are worth and want to try and check up on friends.

A real friend is just there for another person, and knows when it is time , they will tell them and open up for them. So one side or the other is lying or merley telling you the truth from they way they see it.

Maybe one filed for divorce, to them they are divorced since it is filed.
maybe the other is very religious and beleives, once married always married no matter what.

If a person is a friend, they accept the other person regardless and not worry about it.

I have about 20 seconds to get a point across, being blunt is often the only way it works. Being blunt is not rude, it is merely being honest and blunt telling someone something they don't want to hear.

If you wish rude, as a couselor you should know that you don't need to force anyone to talk about a relastionship untill they are ready to.

George_1950

Go to the courthouse and look through the records. They are public.

oneguyinohio

Awww shucks, I aint feelin the love and Carl Rogers would not likely approve of your attempt to earn other's positive regards... So what theory of counseling are you coming from?

brw15

I am and ordained minster and do all sorts. God loves you too.

kraz

Why is it so important for you to know???
Your friend and her husband are entitled to their private issues staying their issues, not anyone elses, unless they choose.
Will it diminish your friendship knowing she is divorced; does it really matter, friends are friends, just support her and her decisions.