I was with my ex for over four years. A month ago she decided to tell me she no longer loves me and it was over! We have 2 boys. She will only let me see them at the weekends. I've tried to moved on but i cant!! Ive been txting her, emailing her ringing er and even set her a letter. All of this because i love her and want to be with her and my boys. She says im starking her and she wants nothing to do with me. Everytime i go around my little boys starts crying saying he does not want me to go!! She told me the other day he also cry's when im not there asking why daddy is not there and when is he coming back?!! she reckons its my fault and that im using them emotionally!! I miss them so much and love them so much!! I then start thinking about her with some one else holding hands kissing and i get my self in such a state that i cant explain!!! I love her so much. how do i move on? i've tried going out but everything reminds me off her. music tv it all reminds me off her!! what do i do?? help !!!

mum2five

I forgot to say .......

As above ok maybe you had a right to stay in the house and not be "kicked out" but I think that had you refused to go would have made this situation a lot worse - you two are adults and if you choose to spend far away as possible from or spent every moment arguing and screaming at what impact would this have had on the children?

For 2 parents who are no longer together and tensions running high does not implicate a loving safe and secure for children to be stuck in the middle of.

You did the right thing in my personal opinion by leaving. Sadly she never thought of the implications of just quickly moving another man into the family home - children need time to adjust to a parents separation. But you can not dictate who she dates or moves into her house unfortunately. Sadly some women just do not put the children first.

talaniman

You should of had a lawyer the day you left.