well i met my partner when i was 16....than got pregnant he is 7 years older than me..now im 19 and he is 26, but now he just pushes me too hard to do things, he wants me to cook hes way ,to think like him,he wants me to be the perfect wife , and i do really try my best to give him what he wants but he keeps on comparing me to his sisters....he tells me that they know how to cook,they think better than me ,they even run better than me, i had my baby at 17 and you know us girls dont end up looking the same as when we were single...he wants me to get in shape and look like a model , but i dont have time for myself . Im a stay home mom and i take care of 6 little kids 7 with my son, all day just to make some money for myself....i just don have time to work out....he doesnt hit me or anything like that...but its the things he tells me...i feel so depress ,im always in a bad mood ,i feel so ugly ,im not as confident as i used to be...im always thinking what people will say....im not happy at all....he gives me everything house,food,clothes ,shoes, my son has everything,...but im not happy , he thinks that i should appreciate him for all that and because he doesnt hit me...he says that another guy would just wop my and i wont probably say nothing...and i know thats true...but i cant be with him...when we are alone we dont talk , we just watch t.v. or we play with our son...he wont hug me infront of someone because hes emberrased, infront of his friends he bosses me around and says that he has me like that.....because all his friends are the same way.....my mom tells me im too young to be living like this ....all his friends n family are old alreary ,im the only young and i dont feel comftorble being around them.......i want to leave but i dont have anywhere to go.....what can i do.....i dont want my son to be affected by this even though he is only 1 year 1/2.....

N0help4u

Sounds like he married you expecting to make you who he wants you to be.
I have heard of older guys that marry girls that are so young just so they can 'make them in their image' of what they want.
He thinks he can and should now since it has gone on so long.
You need to find a way to tell him that you are not his sisters, you have your own thoughts, feelings and personality and it hurts you that he can't find it in himself to love you for you.

George_1950

Welcome to AMHD. You get an A+ for your effort, in my book. Why not get into counseling ASAP? It's going to take some time to sort through all this. You are young and can definitely use some help in getting your confidence and mood where they need to be.

mimi03

It appears that your hubby is very controlling and verbally abusive so you have every right to want out of this situation if he's unwilling to be a better man for you and your son.

Have you raised this issue with your husband? If so...
Is it possible to separate, go to your mom for help (with your son) until things can be settled?