Trying to get over a parents death

xEoMxMoAxx · #1 Jul 31, 2007, 03:59 PM

My mom died when i was 6 years old, and now I'm left with my dad and my 2 sisters. Anyway her death anniversary is coming up tomorrow and i can stop thinking of her, and i keep breaking down and crying it hasn't been like this before in the past years. Now that I'm 16, I guess i think how life would have been with her and knowing for sure it would be better than now. How can i get these thoughts out of my head and stop breaking down crying, is there any way to get over this matter?

XenoSapien · Jul 31, 2007, 04:09 PM

Time; and a lot of it. Keep your focus on what you do have: Dad and your sisters. They need you as much as you need them too. I'm going to guess here, but I'm thinking mom would like to see it that way.

You keep that head up, you help your remaining family members, and persevere.

XenoSapien

go-ask-mom · Aug 1, 2007, 01:05 AM

Breaking down and crying is natural, ESPECIALLY on the day of her death! Don't try and fight it as this is a completely normal reaction, hun!

This day brings about all those thoughts and memories and all the what if's....but the what ifs is not something you should focus on...as you can "what if" it to death!
Be a strong confident young lady that you know your mom would want you to be, and cry some tears of happiness for those times and memories you do have with her! And know that she is yours and your sisters guardian angel! ((hugz hun!))

Here is one of my favorite short poems....

Quote:

We knew little that morning, that God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly, In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone;
for part of us went with you, the day God called you home.

You left us peaceful memories, your love is still our guide,
and though we cannot see you, you are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same,
but as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again.

JAMIET · Aug 11, 2007, 12:18 PM

I'm sorry you're still hurting. It's ok to grieve as long as you need. I'm in my 40's and lost my Mom 5 yrs ago. My Best friend of 30 yrs also lost her Mom...so on the "anniversary" date comes around for each of us, we never , ever forget to call each other, and still cry and get all moody. We've even made it a point to go visit each Mother's grave albeit 120 miles apart, but we go to honor our Mom's together and that really helps. Always remember she is watching over you... so show her how awesome you are!

mcb7 · Mar 18, 2008, 12:54 AM

My dad past away nov 9 2006 & I still think about him all of the time. I wonder what it would be like if he was still here, but I also tell myself that I know he is watching over me & very proud of me. I have also realised that you can not keep putting yourself through that. You can not keep wondering what life would be like with her. Don't get me wrong, you will never get over it completely. Cry, if it makes you feel better, there is nothing wrong with crying.

chelocs14 · Mar 24, 2008, 01:22 PM

i had a friend who's dad died and she had conseling for a bit so try that it might help

grammy2x · Mar 26, 2008, 07:01 AM

My mom passed away last June, and though I knew it was coming, the reality of it has been the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. This has been the biggest loss I have experienced in my 46 years. I don't believe there is any one answer here. My two older sisters and I have dealt with her death in completely different ways. Unfortunately we just have to experience the pain and the grieving all in our own ways and in our own time. Time will tell sweetie. Lately I have been reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and it has helped me in dealing with many issues of life. You are very young and it may or may not help you right now, but it may later on, so keep it in mind. There are many other self books that may help as well. I wish I could take away your pain. Just hang in there and make your momma proud baby. God bless you and your family.



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