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Leighan · Dec 3, 2006, 01:27 PM

I have a 15 month old baby girl. I am with my daughter 24/7 and I am basically her security blanket. However, for the past 4 days now she has not wanted me at all. She will only her grandmother or her grandfather. I'm sure this is just a stage, but it hurts. My question is why is she going through this stage and how long will last? She also hits me and then kisses me. I just tell her we do not hit, we love. Hope you can give me answer to my questions.

talaniman · Dec 3, 2006, 01:47 PM

Don't be hurt at all as kids pass through various stages of development. Be patient and loving because you'll need it for when she hits those trrible two's, not fun.

Bluerose · Dec 3, 2006, 04:51 PM

Leighan,

Hello again. The simple answer is to develop a good routine for her. Make meal times, play times and bath times lots of fun but be firm come bedtime.

To re-connect with her you may have to play like a two year old. You'll win her back, she is exerting a little independence which come from learning to walk and talk. Some of these toddlers just get above themselves. Lol Only joking, she sounds sweet. All kids hit a little and just need to be told, "Please don't do that, it hurts mummy."

I wonder too if she is spending a lot of time with your parents? If this continues, you may have to spend more time with her on your own. It doesn't sound too serious but of course these things can become serious. I'd like to suggest that you be the one to feed and bath her for a while, and give her the odd treat. Limit the treats others give her. I'n not saying this is the case but it might be worth considering - The grandparents might be spoiling her a bit too much. Just some thoughts for your consideration. Let us know how she is.

J_9 · Dec 3, 2006, 08:45 PM

Ah, she is asserting her independence. What a wonderful stage that is, NOT!!

I see that you are with her 24/7, she has recently realised that there is someone there besides Mom. There is no reason for you to be hurt by this, but rather be proud that she is developing at the normal stage in her life. This is the time that many children become curious of other adults in their lives. She is progressing normally in this area.

As for the hitting, this too is a developmental stage. Unless a child is hit often they do not know this is bad. You just have to remain firm in letting her know "this is bad, NO." Or as I would say to mine, "bad, bad." and just hold their hands.

Yes, you are entering the terrible twos. If you believe in them. I personally believe that the terrible twos are more the parents than the child. It is all in what you will allow and how you handle the situation.

I do believe in spanking BUT only if the situation is DANGEROUS. I have 4 children, only one of which has ever had the need to be spanked past the "popping of fingers" when they would touch something dangerous like a kinfe or a light socket.

Back to your subject. What your daughter is going through is normal. Every child goes through certain developmental stages and it seems that she is appropriate for her age.

talaniman · Dec 4, 2006, 04:23 AM

The grandparents might be spoiling her a bit too much. Just some thoughts for your consideration. Let us know how she is.

If they are anything like us, yes they are spoiling your daughter. That's what grandparents do.:)

Bluerose · Dec 4, 2006, 08:47 AM

"The grandparents might be spoiling her a bit too much. Just some thoughts for your consideration. Let us know how she is."

"If they are anything like us, yes they are spoiling your daughter. That's what grandparents do."

I know they do, I do too. But I did say they 'might' be spoiling her 'a bit too much'.