Lately I have been really depressed. It has been over a year now. I stopped going to school for a week or so and the principal suggested i see i psychologist but i never did. Nobody knows about how depressed i am because i hide it all the time. I really want to get some help before i really lose it. I just don't know how to tell my mom. Any suggestions on how to tell her that I would like to get some professional help?

bbgirl

She has to drive me somewhere tomorrow so maybe i'll tell her on the ride there. If not, i'll have find a good time eventually :/

xAjikanx

Yea that sounds good
Remememememeber. its yo mama. She will help!

stonewilder

I know what you said and yes it did sound like you were saying it is all in her head. For some people counseling dose help you gain perspective on your situation so you can better deal with it. It always helps to have someone to talk to that is going to tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. Also she already said her friends are not being very supportive. Depression can be severe enough that if not treated you do feel you don't have a choice but to end the pain and suffering. Everyone deals with depression at some point in their life's. Sometimes it's caused from an event or situation in which the depression can subside when it has been dealt with. Others of us has it because it is a decease. In my case it is another symptom of my ADD. Further more I went to a counselor till I dealt with the issues of my past and it did help me tremendously. I was on medication for 5 years, I stopped the medication because I too learned ways of controlling the depression. You have no way of knowing that what worked for you will indefinitely work for her. You should leave it to a profession to diagnose her problem that could actually stem from something other than simple depression. In your first post to her you said,
“I dont recommend psychiatric help. why are you gonna pay so much money to have someone tell you" Well you have depression" and talk to you about it and might put you on medication?
I dont think that helps.
It is really all in the head.
Like msoking- you think it helps but your wasting all your money on somethign dumb.”
You have made it sound as if she would be “dumb” to talk to a professional who might be of help to her and if it’s not she can decide that herself. As well, most people do benefit from medication even if it’s taking for a short time to help them think more clearly and less negatively.

stonewilder

[quote= I am afraid to tell her because i usually complain about everything and i always think there is something wrong with me. I am afraid that she would just think i am complaining again. But i have read online that what i have been doing is a sign/symptom of depression so...yeah. I dont know [/QUOTE]

Maybe you could just tell her something along the lines of what you have told us.


Mom I need to tell you something. I been wanting to tell you for a while but...well I know I complain about everything and I always think there is something wrong with me. I don't feel good about myself or my life. I feel alone and like no one understands me..I don't even understand me or why I feel the way I do. Sometimes I have these thoughts that scare me. I want to be happy but I'm not and I don't know why. I think I'm having problems with depression and I don't know how to make it stop....


If for some reason you can't bring yourself to tell your mom it is important that you find someone you trust and who will take your feelings seriously. This not something you need deal with alone and with out some form of support.

xAjikanx

Hahahahahah. NO.
It sounded like it did but it wasn't.
Lol dont lecture me about depression. I been thru it for 2 years.
Yea i said i dotn recomend that kind of help.
THE HELP IS ALL IN PEOPLES HEADS. not her depression. -.-
She even said her sel she doenst like pyyscs.

Okay what in the world owuld oyu like me to do about her friends? I have nothing to do with it. its quite simple, she can drop them or tell them that it hurts.

I dealed with those people and I dont like them, dotn attack what I said. If i wasn't talkign to you then dont attack what I said and get everyhtign mixed up, help her, dont worry about what I'm saying. If she had a problem with anything I said she would of said something like "Your wrong". mmkay? ty.
Yea she can decde for her self, I said i'm not RECOMMENDING.
+I dont belive i nthat kind of medicine.

Like I said, dont attack what I saidy because you got everything mixed up.
I can care less how you feel about my opinions, I dotn eed someone comp aing on what I say unless its the person I'm giving the advice to. Dont be a hero.

And sorry to
bbgrl but these kind of things annoy me, no disrespect to you or your thread.

*I can be pretty ruthless but im holding back so much. I hate being misunderstood.

And I recommended counseling, not a physc. Because if she oesnt really have depression then all that money shes spending would be pointless, a guidnece counselor's is the first best choice for me.
Like I said tho, stop worrying about what I'm saying and worry about your answers more.

sadsue

Get help for the love of God before you end up like me. Tell your mom or someone you trust but don't waste your life.

mnunn

My heart goes out to you. My son was going through so much when he was a teenager and turned out fine later, but scared me to death sometimes. He was a "cutter" and would often cut on his wrists. I am convinced that there are so many things that can contribute to depression and that is why you absolutely need to get professional help. If you don't like one, then you have a right to change to one you are comfortable with. Hormones can wreak havoc and even later on in life like people my age. I never make any major decisions about anybody or anything when I feel PMS because I don't trust my feelings. Heck sometimes I kick the door when I have this going on and later wonder what in the world that was all about. There are so many people affected by depression, and you may think that no one else understands or knows, but everyone around you is affected. Heck, they may actually be relieved to know that is what's going on instead of just your personality. Best to have some conseling, take care to be healthy and if you need it then take the medicine. It's not always one certain pill for everyone, but usu they start off with a really low dose and might have to make adjustments until it is right for you. And you may not need them once the hormone's stabilize as you get older. They may need to ck your thyroid hormones as well. I sincerely wish you all the best. Please let us know how all this turns out.

stonewilder

Whatever, it doesn't change the fact that you are screwing with a persons life when they say they feel suicidal and discourage them form getting professorial help. Don't try to defend what you said 'cause bottom line, in your first post you said it was dumb.

xAjikanx

LMAO!!!!
Screwing with a persons life? I didnt tell her ot go kill her self.
I told her to tell her mom and go to a guidance counsiller.
Thats PROFESSIONAL HELP. I said i dotn like physc. she doesnt either.

I can keep going all night at this.
My post was dumb Nah how about I just make yo ufeel stupid.

I HAD Depression, I WAS suicidal. I didnt daignose my self, THEREFORE it owuld of been pointless to pay money to see a physcatrist.

I first went to a GUIDENCE COUNSILLER> She told me I have a case of Depression then after a while of her and I chattign she RECOMMNDED i see a physc. I dont like them so I didnt go.

Why pay so much money for meds if you dont even know you have depression? Thats why Counsillers are a good first step.
I didnt tell her "Ohh never go to themm!" I said i dotn RECOMEND them.
Because the only thng more they can do is give you medicines.

I told her to go see a counsiller first and tell her mom.

I EVEN recommnded a greeat book that helps with theeset hings. So I dont know who your trying to fool, that I'm tryign to screw up her life?
Go find some rocks to play with and stop saying im ruining peoples lifes and that my posts are dumbs. I dotn want feedbakck from you, I want it from her, because this is who im writting too.
Poor girl has to deal with this nonsense now. Im sorry bbgrl.

Soooo... yer beat.

bbgirl

wow. i didnt know my post would cause this much commotion haha. anyway, id just like to thank you guys again for your suggestion. you have really helped me. and i am not going to take a side on the argument but i do understand what both of you are saying so no need to argue anymore. haha these smiley faces are just adorable.