I dont know what to do. I need help.
One night i was staring off into space and all of a sudden death came across me and i started thinking what it was going to be like to die.
The first thing on my mind was... 'you'll be put in a hole to rot; your have a rock over your grave with your name on it and be forgotten in 20-30 years after my grand children are born.
Im only 17 at the moment i know i have a lot of life left. But everyday and hour i cant stop thinking about it. Its affecting my work.schooling.and relationship. I dont live with my parents. i live with you boyfriend. i went to him with this problem and all he said was that i need to get over it because we all die and theirs nothing you can do about it. I went to one of my friends at work and talked to her about it. She brought me to church thinking that i would feel better about myself. I still think about it.
Sometimes i think about it to the point where my body starts to shake and i feel like im falling threw the ground. and everything goes black around me. I start to cry but then i think whats the point. NO im not thinking of killing myself or anything. Im just so scared. I really don't want to die. and i no its going to happen. But i just cant accept it. I work monday to friday 9-5 every morning and every night when i go to and from work my bus pass's two cemetery's and try to look at a new grave every time i go by them. Then i look at the people on the bus and start to freak out. I get heavy breathing and my hands and moth start tingling.
Im sooo scared , I think im scareing myself to death...
please. what do i do?
I think there ia an Obcessive-Compulsive component that needs to be evaluated and treated. You have to find another route around the cemetaries. See a psychologist/psychiatrist and have a psycholgical evaluation.
I have been plagued with the same thing on and off throughout my life. I'm an atheist, and don't believe in heaven or an after life. My devout Catholic grand father also had the same fear (supposedly he did believe in an after life). This really is a component of OCD. No amount of people telling you to not "worry" about it will help you to stop. In my case, I had to be evaluated by a doctor (as the above poster suggests) and placed on medication. Being on medication has made a HUGE difference in my life. Good luck...
I waisted a lot of years dwelling on death. I was afraid of it. I wondered when it would come to me, how it would come to me. It was like it was always watching me and waiting for that time and so was I. I listened to a lot of family members and friends about how you `just die and it's over', or your' spirit goes on... `somehow'. But I knew they were all just guessing or making up there own ending or repeating what someone else said that sounded good to them. I tried to find something firm in what they were telling me-but couldn't. I was 35 when I went to church with a friend (our first time) just to see what it was all about. Fortunately, it wasn't a `holier than thou' church and we got the truth instead of a bunch of religion. Very skeptical, I wanted to look into what they were saying about Gods love for us myself-I was tired of believing other peoples nonsense only to be let down. I started reading the bible and it was pretty wild how things started to change. There 's so much I want to say to you. So many things I've discovered that have brought me a peace I never knew existed. It's indescribable. Go to a church where people are humble and accept you for who you are and are glad to answer any questions you might have. One where you won't be judged. The last thing I want to be is pushy- I just want you to have the peace and joy and understanding I now have. Hope to hear from you sometime.
you shouldn't be afraid, of death because no matter what death will, come, death is really a better thing then life, because you get to be with god, and away from all the evil ness of the world, so dont be afraid, when god calls for you, you will know he will protect you
When I was young I had the same feelings of death and I learned to change my
thinking and believe in what is truth. I don't know how you feel about God, but
He has given me my peace and joy for living my life and has delivered m out of all
my fears. When I see something or a thought that causes a bad thought to come into my mind I change it quick to something good.We all have the right to chouoe on what we
think on. Good and bad thoughts come into everyones mind but it is up to us to
change it. In the bible God has very good promises for us, so I learn them and start
saying them and getting them into my mind and it removes all fear from me.
This is a few I say. "For God hath not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love,
and of a sound mind."11 Timothy 1:7
"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding." Proverbs 3:5
"Peace I leave with you, My peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth, give I
unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither le it be afraid." John14:27
"I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly."
John 10:10
"Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord
thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest." Joshua 1:9
"Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2
You will be what you believe in and what you think on, so start thinking good
thoughts and believe in good. Renew Your Thinking, Choose Good.
it doesnt scare me, but to be honest what scares me is how you die..if i will be allowed, i want to die painless.......but one thing i can be sure of and i have hope, that theres life after death......
Many people ask me 'why are you so afraid of death,your a spiritualist and talk to spirit that have already passedand believe in an afterlife, so why so afraid of dying (moving on to the afterlife)?
my answer is, and is my belief that we dont die,our bodies do but not our spirit,soul although i cant be 100% certain as nobody ever is. But with this belief in mind,im still scared of dying,two reasons really, firstly as the poster above said, it's how we pass over, whether it will be pain free and not such a traumatic passing etc, and the other reason, is for people close to me to pass over,because i will miss them terribly and vice versa, it's that pain,not being able to be still with the people i love dearly and care about on this earth,be with them still in body and spirit,rather than just spirit.
The same thing happened to me when I was around your age. It is such a mind blowing thing to contemplate that I think it takes your brain a well to comprehend it. I remember not being able to sleep because I was so scared of the thought of stopping existing and then again the thought of never ceasing to exist. It use to terrify me so much thinking about it like a living nightmare.
After a while though it stops being so scary and you end up just accepting it not understanding it but not finding it so scary.
I have no spritual belief in religion, life after death or anything like that despite this I am not as scared as I was. I am 35 and it gets easier I promise.
i'm going thru the same thing. I've had panic disorder since a child, thought I had it under control, but now since I've gotten older(60) I can't get the fear of dying off my mind,because its a lot closer than before. I'm a christian,I'm not afraid of where I'm going when I die, just the physical process. I pray and ask God to take away my fears, but i'm still terrified to the extent that i'm dreading nightime cayse thats when its worse. I feel for you.
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