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My Husband is Dying and i feel so alone. I have a handicap sister also which I take care of. My brother is trying to help. I want to say thanks. But i will cry to much becouse i will have to say it out loud. I have tried to tell my daughter. She thinks he will be here for a few years and I am worried about nothing. I have not told my son everything. becouse he has two altistic children, and thats alot. Me and my husband know his time is short. We talk a little when he is not to tired. I let him talk to me. I thought about going to go and get some antideppresent. To maybe help me though this. What do other people do. I see some stand strong. DO they cry when no one is around.
Denice,you need to talk to someone,no one is a rock all the time.I'll pray for you even thou I am not a christian I do think God hears everyone.If you fall apart what will become of your sister,so if you don't do it for yourself do it for her.I think you should tell the immediate family about this and don't shoulder this burden alone.
Some people cry when no one is around, and others don't. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. Sometimes a good cry is what helps a little. Other people find help through counseling with religious leaders or bereavement counselors. You are certainly dealing with a lot of issues, but I would let the family in on it, though it wont be an easy thing. Your daughter who thinks Dad will be around for awhile, might be experiencing denial or hoping that things aren't all that bad as a way for her to cope with the situation. I would also let your son know. He has an involvement as well, and if it were me, I would want to know so that I could be involved no matter what other things were going on in my life. You don't have to shelter other people from your feelings. You have every reason to cry when you talk about such an emotional thing. Let others in, and share with them.
Denice, I posted the following on your first post so will go ahead and send it then comment at the end of this on this current post:
Denice, you will find a lot of warm hearted, loving people on this site. Please feel free to share feelings, ask questions, whatever your needs are, there will be someone ready and willing to be here for you. If you are uncomfortable sharing in the open forum about certain questions or sharing of feelings, you always have the option of private messaging. Just wanted to share that since I noticed you are a new member. Don't feel shy to ask for emotional support. We all need one another. You can private message anyone, just go to their profile or if someone replies to your post, just left click on their name and you will see the option to PM. If no one responds immediately, just remember that most have jobs and some have children, grandchildren and so are not available at the exact moment you post but please, don't give up. We will answer, usually within the same day. Our hearts go out to you and we are here for you.
Denice, please know that "they", "I", "we", not only cry when we are alone but when we are in the car, in a store, outside. Bless your heart. It sounds like you have your plate full and feel so alone. You are not alone. Many will be here for you.
Please don't be discouraged at slow response from us. Give us time to respond. Sometimes, we need to think through what we want to say before typing. Just know that many are going through similar situations and some have walked in your shoes so to speak and can offer great support to you. You are not alone. I do not know what your faith belief is, but I believe in God and his son Jesus Christ and His word. If we have put our faith in Him, He promises He will never leave us nor forsake us. Take heart in that promise. There will be others posting soon. Just know you are not alone Denice.
Denice, I notice that you are now offline. I hope you can sleep tonight and we will be here for you tomorrow. Good night. I will be praying that God wraps you in His comfort and gives you much needed rest tonight.
My Husband is Dying and i feel so alone. I have a handicap sister also which I take care of. My brother is trying to help. I want to say thanks. But i will cry to much becouse i will have to say it out loud. I have tried to tell my daughter. She thinks he will be here for a few years and I am worried about nothing. I have not told my son everything. becouse he has two altistic children, and thats alot. Me and my husband know his time is short. We talk a little when he is not to tired. I let him talk to me. I thought about going to go and get some antideppresent. To maybe help me though this. What do other people do. I see some stand strong. DO they cry when no one is around.
Hi Denise I am Lady Kalliope, no I am not going to tell you that what you are going thru will get easier, but I took care of terminally ill patients for 8 years, and it was exhausting for me. With all you have on your plate, you may need antidepressants, but most of all you need friends, and family around to support you. If you need to talk I am here for you, you may think im nuts but Ive been there many times over, and I would like to help you in this dark time for you. Brightest blessings to you and your family
Denice, I will be checking my computer throughout the day periodically to see if you have posted. I will have to leave at 5:00 to feed my mother at the Nursing Home and get her to bed but will check again on my return a few hours later. From the posts I have read, there are several others anxious to hear from you to help you also.
Please do consider being very open with your family. You are trying to protect too many people. That is an awful heavy load for you to carry. You may be surprised how healing, opening up with them, might be for you and for them. Until later then!
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