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what are you fearing? is it death itself (a fear of you dying) or a fear of someone else dying? i dont think you can easily over come the fear of this! I did fear death at one stage, i really didnt know what helped me get thru this, but now i do not fear it, at all! When it is your time, it is your time and you really cant stop it or do anything about it! you need to come to terms with that! ...
Hi,
I assume from your question that you are referring to yourself. I am 64 yrs old, and really don't think about dying. I know it will happen eventually; all living things die.
If you could be specific with another post, it might help. Some know they only have a certain approx. time left; others don't know, like me.
Talking with others is one of the best ways to come to peace with it. The more you talk about it, the more you understand that it's not in your hands. Anything can happen to anyone at any time; accidents do happen. Think about other things, get busy with a job, hobbies, etc; take your mind off of it, and think about positive things.
Whatever death is I know this one universal truth. It is natural and necessary. The fear is the fear of the unknown. In some cases death is welcomed to alleviate unassuagable suffering. Nobody knows what lies beyond the conscienceness of being. Perhaps it is not at all bad. At least will will be in good company.
I guess I should have been more specific - I apologize.
yes, it's me. I don't know if I'm in the right forum or not for this, but recently (and I have been under a lot of stress) the thought that I'm going to die has been scaring me into panics. I'll be watching my children play and they'll be doing cute stuff (singing and just doing precious baby stuff) then the thought that something is going to happen to me. I try to just think of something else, but it comes back over and over again until I start crying, panic and such.
I know everything and everyone goes at some point, but I don't want to be so afraid of it - not a good feeling.
Thanks for reading and any advise.
-Kae
Are you experiening physical symtoms? The panic part sticks out in your post. You may be having panic episodes or attacks as they are called. This is caused by an over abundence of adreniline. Symtons can be: feeling of overwhelming dread, impending death, heart racing, sweating, feeling that your throat is closing in on itself, strong need to urinate, blurred vision and an overall vague sensation that something is wrong.
If this is the case this can easily be treated with proper medication. In any event what you are experiening is affecting your life. If it isn't physical than a visit to a quailifed psychotherapist or psychiatrist would be a prudent move. It is doubtful that this problem will take care of itself and getting help is not a weakness, it's smart.
Hi, Kae,
One thing that might help. Do you have a Will? If anything happens to you, do you have someone you would want to take care of your children? That always helps, just knowing they would be in good hands, if God Forbid, something did happen to you.
I agree with the answer before this one. Go to a Counselor, or even a Priest, Minister, Pastor, or someone you can talk with about this.
If that idea doesn't suit you, then you really need to talk with someone, face-to-face, to help you get over this. You can do it, just hang in there are talk with someone. Best wishes.
Hi
Thankyou for the wonderful answerer.
I do have a mental illness that I take Lithium and a few others to control symptoms. I see a psychotherapist once a month a counselor every two weeks along with weekly groups, and a psychiatrist every 10 days (this is because he has to monitor the lithium so closely along with the blood tests that go along with it is all done at his office - I know that sounds like a lot, but I actually keep myself together pretty well.
This fear of death has just recently started - I'll definitely talk to the Dr. about it Mon. and the counselor on Wed.
I run a business out of my home and volunteer teaching art classes in the spring and summer at the community center (this is the first year the added classes has caused me stress). I will not break my commitment to these wonderful students. This stress has probably more than likely brought this on, but now that it's here, I have to find a way to cope with this death thing.
My children would be well taken care of, so I will discus this next week during my appts.
Thankyou everyone
-Kae
Hi..I agree with the above posts about the soul never dying. I too had an extreme fear of dying. BUt I absolutely beleive that we all go to another state of enlightenment. Wether that be heaven or somewhere else. I don't look at death as an end to all things just a transition unto something better..a continuation. Iv read tons of books on the afterlife, near death expirences and in doing so my fear has been eleviated greatly. I mean know one wants..to die, but if it were to come I think I would be ready and if it meant my life or my children's life, I would sacrafice mine for them in a heartbeat. The only thing that I think I fear still when it comes to death is the actual dying part of it all. I don't want to feel pain or suffering. Hopefully its peaceful.
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