Am I weak for wanting to kill myself?

18, you have no idea what real failure is even about. Are you homeless, are you eating out of the trash cans for your lunch meal. Were you gang raped as you had to sleep behind a trash can last night.

Most of your problems are those you caused for yourself, you failed at school, so >>> what, did not say high school or college classes. If high school, you either go back or go to a night school, or do your GED, and move on. Is there a reason you failed, perhaps you did not spend enough time ? so you are laid off from a job, welcome to 1/2 of the USA ( if that is where you are at) Unemployment says it is at 12 percent or so, but that is because another 20 percent or so have just stopped looking for a job. Jobs are tough, so you start looking and find another job, will not be easy, but you find one. Perhaps you broke up with the girlfriend because you were feeling too sorry for yoruself, or she just wanted to be with someone who was working to pay bills, ( if so, you are better off without her) So now you have all the fun in dating again, different women and experience some life.

Yes you are looking at this wrong, this is a great chance to reinvent yourself, and start new.

If you really wanted to die you wouldn't care what anyone thought. I'm not saying you don't feel absolutely horrible. I'm saying you sound like you actually do want to be talked out of it.

I personally don't like throwing words like coward at suicidal people, who already feel rotten enough. I also don't like the old 'so you think you have it bad' routine either. Plus I don't think suicide per se is cowardly.

In fact, I think if other people weren't so condemning, some of the grief, loneliness, and guilt would lift, and in a ironic twist, suicidal people would feel better about themselves. Not having to sneak around furtively takes a bit of the awfulness away.

Liam, I think a key remark you made is that you have alienated your friends because you are ashamed. If a friend can't take you in the state you are in, then what kind of a friend is he? Or better put, why can't you let your friends take you as you are, which they very well might be wanting to do? You don't have to tell your tales of woe for hours on end, but they can drag you around to their houses and places they go to, not trying to cheer you up, just sort of gathering you in. Ask them to.

Joy, I respectfully disgree. This person actually posted his full name. That isn't about suicide. That's about attention. When it's posted as "I plan to commit suicide in x days" I figure why would anyone take the time to post?

This was posted in February - now, more than 2 months later it's still an ongoing conversation with everyone BUT the OP.

A lot of people, maybe everyone, has low times, bad times, sad times. Survivors do that, they survive. That's not minimizing the OP's personal anguish. It's a statement of fact. Times get rough. Other people have it worse. Pull yourself together and go on. Other people have.

- and it's entirely possible he's burned out his friends.

Ah, I didn't see the date. And a post seems to have been removed.
We don't even know if Liam killed himself or not, 2 months later.
Cries for attention don't always mean that the suicide doesn't go through.
I don't think we are at odds with each other all that much, but I do have a different view of this subject as far as condemnation goes.

No problem - and I don't think either one of us is looking for a clone.

Always like what you have to say and the way you express it, whether or not I agree.

Group hug, group hug.

Talk to someone like a counselor, or a priest, even if you're not religious, their job is to listen and discuss matters like yours. I went to a counselor a couple of times for depression, it's actually great to have someone listen to you with an open mind, even if it is their job.

Short term, get out of the house and go down to a park or something for as long as you need.

Hi Liam. You are only 18 years old. You haven't even lived yet. So much more to experience. True love.Your own children and Grand Children, etc. There is no greater joy then to be a part of those blessings. No, you are not weak. It takes strength to reach out and that is what you are doing now. I myself have had many tough obstacles in my life. I had a son commit suicide when he was only 26. It practicaly destroyed me and the entire family. His sister and brothers were never the same. I have never been the same as my heart cries for him every day and it has been 20 years ago. He thought that he was a burden on everyone when he was just carrying the burden of the feelings and emotions that we all must learn to carry in life. . What people don't understand, is that it truly is a selfish thing to do. Are you a selfish person? Are you spiritual or have any religion in your life? I am a spiritual person and my creator whom I choose to call "God" saved me from the ugly slow death of alcohol and drugs 26 years ago. I became a certified addictions counselor almost 20 years ago. Trust me when I tell you that suicide is not the answer. We all go thru life with many challenges and choices. There is truly only one unforgiveable sin.(my understanding) and that is to turn your back on God. That means that you don't trust him to help you through your trials and tribulations. Give it a try. He knows your needs before you ask anyway. Nothing happens in Gods world ny mistake. God doesn't make mistakes...We do.
Look into taking some classes to help others that feel the same way you do. Learn how to help save a life.....Not end one. Anyone can do that


God Bless you

Please - if you want to preach take it over to the religious forums. Not everyone on this site believes in your God.

Perhaps preaching about religion helps the people you counsel - that doesn't really work here.

Well, Miss Judy. My way has helped save many young persons lives. Belief or non-belief. When someone reaches out, many avenues can be suggested. I think it rude of you to respond in this manner. I am an expert in griel and loss. Are you? Have a wonderful day

No, I'm not an expert in griel. I was widowed, however. Does that count as having been there instead of just talking about it?