woman vs. man

bulldogob · #1 Feb 8, 2006, 10:37 AM

Does it bother men when you ask them out? I don't normally ask them because that's not how I was brought up, but I know that men can be just as shy as we are.

bizygurl · Feb 8, 2006, 10:52 AM

Im positive that they can be just as shy as woman. I don't think it would bother a guy to ask them out. If anything Im sure it takes the pressure off them ounce in awhile to make the first move. And I bet they would find it flattering.

Hey any fellas out there wanna back me up on this?!?! Im only speaking from a girls point of view and what Iv seen with some of my guy friends in the past.

bulldogob · Feb 8, 2006, 11:46 AM

Thanks bizgirl. Yes any men that can offer opinions would really help.

nwsflash · Feb 8, 2006, 11:47 AM

It would not bother me if it was the woman asking me out.....And yes I guess it can be taken as flattering, take away some of the presure from the guys point of view.

And guys can be just as shy as the woman, maybe even a little more sometimes. Come to think of it im sure it was my other half that made the 1st move on me LoL

This is the 21st cent' men and woman have just as many rights as one another....

bulldogob · Feb 8, 2006, 12:06 PM

Thank you Father.

confuzed · Feb 21, 2006, 10:51 AM

My mother was the one who proposed and they are extremely happy so I think that it is okay for the woman to ask out the man! Might turn out really great

bizygurl · Feb 21, 2006, 12:07 PM

heck yeah, hey its the 21st century noone really bats an eye to that stuff anymore. You GO mom!!!!!!!!!!

kp2171 · Mar 2, 2006, 08:18 AM

it may bother some men. i'm guessing it doesn't bother most. certainly not me.

i have always been interested in women who are straightforward and perhaps even more "aggressive" about what they want. hate to use that word cause it sounds dominatrix, and that's not at all what i mean. i just always have found that if i'm even remotely interested in a woman and she shows interest, it has usually pushed my interest to a new level, often to where i'll ask her out.

i say as long as you don't do anything that you'll regret... be true to yourself ...feel free to ask the guy out. if you're esecially uncomfortable you could always find a way to make it seem more like his idea or a mutual decision.

my wife did this a little before we dated. i was on the tail end of a relationship and she knew it. i knew she was "secretly" dating a guy at work but i didn't know how serious it was. well, it was pretty much over. she first showed casual interest by trying to get me to go to a movie with a group of people. i didn't go, but i noted the interest in her trying to include me in a group i didn't typically hang with but was friendly toward. later she got me to a bar with a few coworkers. that time i went and had a good time.

i was interested in her and i was pretty certain she was in me. but she was a superior at work and i just wasn't going to go there. long story short, she found a few ways to get me to be around her, and then when we were together she showed interest. married 6 years now.

the person i dated before her did a similar thing. i'd approached her and she turned me down sort of. was bad timing. well, she later felt better about the idea and started stopping by. her general interest got me to the place where i pushed the issue again.

could help to know your situation. roughly what age? how do you know the person? how long have you known him?

fredg · Mar 2, 2006, 08:31 AM

Hi,
At 64 yrs old and married many years, I do remember being asked out many, many years ago by women. It didn't bother me at all. I took it as "being equal" to others.
I think it's great that a woman wants to ask a man out. I do believe the days of "only men ask women out", are gone.....thank goodness.
I do wish you the best of luck. Remember, you make your own luck.