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Will I ever love her and how do I stop her from trying to have sex with me?
I'm the type of guy who wants to be married before doing anything and this girl keeps on pushing for sex what can I do to try and get her to lay off? I tried explaining to her but she doesn't get the hint. I'm not like that...And if I feel like i'm not into her at times does that mean I will never be completely into her or will she grow on me?
Okay then.
You've told her your' siutation.
If she can't respect that then kick her to the curb.
You say you're not into her at times.
Then what the hell are you still doing with her?
If you have the least bit of doubts with someone, even the tiniest little doubt, don't be with that person.
Honestly, she should love you for the great guy that you are. What guy, in this date and time, would wait to be married to do any sexual play? Not many.
You have modesty and self respect and that is an awesome trait to have.
DO NOT change that for some broad who seemigly just wants a physical relationship.
Relationships are so much more than physical.
By making that vow, it shows that you have a great amount of respect for women as well, which is not an everyday occasion you find in a lot of men.
Same thing I tell girls who's guys push them for sex, NO ONE can make you do something you don't want to do. If they continue to push you to do something when you tell them that you don't want to do it, then you say, "No. I'm not going to do that. If you can't respect that, then I'm sorry, but this relationship is not going to work."
Seriously dude...dating is ABOUT this stuff. You're supposed to be paying attention. She's telling you in no uncertain terms that to stay with her you have forfeit your morals and goals. Why aren't you listening?
You like her. Fine.
She likes you, fine.
You tell her what you want in life, something really important. She says "Oh well, I don't want you to do/get that."
What's your next move? Seriously. You don't know? This girl you "like" is trying to do harm to you (if it weren't sex, it would be something else).
Never, never, EVER be alone with her again in any situation, and I agree with those above who say "run for the hills." There are respectful girls out there that would KILL to have a guy who wasn't trying to jump them on every date.
It sounds like you guys are on different pages when it comes to dating. Explain to her that you are saving yourself for marriage. Tell her you aren't going to change your mind or beliefs, so since she wants a sexual relationship now, it might be best if you went your separate ways. Since you have already told her how you feel, and she continues to pressure you, she obviously doesn't care that waiting is important to you.
I would break up with her if it were me. Tell her that she's a nice girl and you wish her the best, but you have different beliefs. Tell her that if you stay together, you're going to be miserable because she'll be pushing for sex, and she'll be miserable because she wants what isn't going to happen.
If you feel like you aren't "into her" sometimes, then I think it's best to break things off. You guys obviously have different values and if you are seeing things you don't like already, I would break it off. Hope this helps!
I tried explaining to her but she doesn't get the hint. I'm not like that...And if I feel like i'm not into her at times does that mean I will never be completely into her or will she grow on me?
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