I met this guy about 6months ago, he came down to FL from LA for a job. I know I fell madly in love with him after 3months he was all I could think about and he said he felt the same way. We lived together for about 2months when one day he went to work and the guy he came down here with got fired, he called me up and told me that him and his friends were going to go to Kansas they would work 3 weeks and get 10 days off paid for. I cried and told him I didn't want him to go, and while he was crying also he said he would ask me to go but they were going to stay in hotels. So once he got up there he didn't call me for 10days I finally got the nerve to call him and ask him what was going on. HE said he started talking to his ex-girlfriend again and that they were going to try to get back together because she's pregnant with his kid. He also said he didn't have a cell phone to call me and let me know what was going on, and that he didn't like asking other people if he could use there phone. Well a week goes by and he calls everyone and there mother because I wasn't answering my phone. Well he called my mom and my mom told him that she thought I went to TN to be with another guy, well by this time we were crying and told her to please have me call him. Like a fool I called him and he was crying his eyes out telling me that he loves me and he don't want to be with her he was just trying to do the right thing for his baby! He even had his 2 really good friends that love me like I'm there sister come on the phone and tell me how crazy he's been without me. THey kept telling me that I'm so cool and that he lucky to have me, because his ex girlfriend was the biggest in the world! So like an idiot I believed every word he/they said. We talked for about 2weeks I had to call the hotel room all the time just tot talk to him, and when I didn't call he would get mad at me because he wanted to now everything I was doing. He got fired 2 weeks after being there for acting a fool while being drunk. Well he just left today to Louisiana because his kid was born yesterday and he has a court date on march 4th. He told me that he was coming back to FL because he misses me so much and can't be without me anymore. But if that was true shouldn't he be rushing here to see me instead of going back up to Louisiana? He told me he was going to call when he got back into Louisiana (because I get worried when he don't call me) and he still hasn't! Should I just give up? He gets so mad at me when I tell him I go out and do things.. but should I just wait around on him? I love this man more then anything in the world. The whole time we were together we argued ONE time.. the rest of the time we just talked our differences out. I feel like he was sent to me for a reason, I have never felt this happy with anyone and I was in a relationship about to get married before I met him. Im going crazy just thinking about what could be happening up there.. am I taking it 2 far should I just trust him? Or should I call his mamas house tomorrow and find out what's going on? He told me he wanted a scrapbook of us together because he only had one picture of us so I sent it to Louisiana.. shouldn't he call once he sees it? He also asked me yesterday on the phone that IF he comes back to fl would I marry him and my reply was well you would have to come to fl and prove you wanted to be with me.. was that a good answer?

The ONLY good thing I got from YOU in that whole story was the last line. Holy cow, this guy is signalling loud and clear that he's not into your relationship right now, LOUD AND CLEAR, and you're not hearing him?

A guy is what he does. Not what he says. Period. I've sang this song on this forum countless times. If you want to know what a guy thinks/feels, go with what you SEE him doing, not what he's saying.

This guy's actions have said "bye" and you're chasing him verbally. I am so sorry for your loss, but at this moment you have no relationship, you have an "ex".

So, the only thing that has a HOPE of working, I mean the ONLY thing, is for you to cut off all electronic communication completely.

Phone call - hangup or don't answer (screen the call)
Phone message - delete as SOON as you hear his voice, don't listen to it
Text message - delete without reading it
Email - train your email service to DELETE his emails, not move to trash, delete them

Just like in the good romance movies, the best "I've come to my senses and can't live without you" scenes occur FACE TO FACE, the guy shows up on your doorstep and proclaims love.

That's your goal, to get him back, and to actually accomplish that, you have to honor his ACTIONS. He moved away, so you've moved away. When he comes back and starts focusing on you two, then MAYBE you'll seriously start dating again.

But be careful, your feelings for him are sweet, but honest examination of this guy and the baggage he's carrying (kids? ) means you're accepting a LOT of drama in your life if he comes back.

First, make sure he's come back
Second, make him court you again seriously
Third, don't ignore the baggage

Good look with the No Contact project. It's SOOO hard, but it's the only thing that "might" work. Since it's not 100%, you should spend that NC time working your own independence and don't avoid other dating options if they come up. This guy may be gone and you're not accepting it yet. Keep yourself focused on your TRUE present.

Maybe he'll be back in it someday, but no more "electronic relationships."