I fell very deeply in love with a man who told me he loved me as well and even hinted at marriage. We were together for 2 years. Then he moved away and has not kept in contact. It has been over for a year and I am still hurting. Why do men have to lie?

redhed35

your poem is so sad....

lost love is hard to bear,but as many here can tell you,you can and will survive.

i for one can tell you i have felt the same way over a man,and i did move on once i discovered no contact,it really was a relief not to feel so lost and broken.

think about your life before this man,the type of person you were him.

after many failed relationships including a divorce,i decided go it alone,just me and the kids,it was easier and less heartbreaking to go through all the love and loss again.

i worked on me..i healed little by little.

i am now in a relationship with a wonderful man,its 50/50 not the usual 70/30,me giving the 70%...

i grew up,and found a nugent of gold....that was, you cannot be happy in a relationship if your not happy on your own.....

when too happy single people get together,its magic!

jenabeth

Thank you redhed35. It helps to know others who have went through similar experiences. I have written over a hundred poems and most of them are just like the one I shared. I have thought about putting them in a book or something later on but I am too raw from my experience at the moment. I guess real healing takes a long time :-(

redhed35

i think a book of poems for the broken hearted is a great idea,with a note from the author on how she recovered and found happiness!

the light at the end of the tunnel may seem to be malfunctioning but you have the power to turn it on full blast!

jenabeth

I think I will put them together someday after I have healed. And you are right. I will put an inspirational message in there as well. I would hope that it might help someone who finds themselves in simular circumstances. :-) I feel much better already. Thank you!

jaime90

You shouldn't stereotype. Men and women both have the ability to lie. People usually lie to try to benefit themselves. Sometimes lies that seem innocent are really fatal to a relationship. This guy told you what you wanted to hear, and you believed him.

You knew this guy for 2 years, the thing you were clearly missing was honesty. If you decide to date again- make sure that you are both open and honest with each other and can share open communcation. Also, don't fall into the trap of being enchanted by the way a man talks. Some guys use flattery just to get what they want from women. And vice versa- so you should always be cautious.

jenabeth

I know. I am just hurting right now and kind of down on men I guess. I am sorry for saying that. I know it isn't true.